What are your thoughts on cyber bullying?
Posted by: Rainbow
4th Oct 2012 03:32pm
Do you even agree with this term or do you think people need to harden up?
Have you been the victim of cyber bullying yourself? If everyone is entitled to their own opinions, where do we draw the line?
Have you been the victim of cyber bullying yourself? If everyone is entitled to their own opinions, where do we draw the line?
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Gerry1945
Cyber bullying is not a problem if you do not join the conversation. Delete them, report them, block them. Easy.
Anonymous
Cyber bulling is out there where people have been either blackmailed for money. i have been blackmailed and bully to give money to people. i have been strong and have refused it. at the moment with the internet still going there is not much in the way of policing the cyber bulling. we do need a way to police it. the only way to police it is to report the user profile to the administrator of the website and have the person banned from it but they can get around it by using a different profile name and different email account.
Anonymous
I detest cyber bullying because of the harmful psychological and emotional effects it brings to the victim which may flow through many aspects of the victim's life. The Internet is a wonderful hub of opportunity and knowledge, I hope idiots do not ruin it just for some sort of twisted fun.
Cyber bullying, as a term since accurate because the bullying does happen in the web/cyber space.
Never been a victim but I know people who have experienced it. Everyone is entitled in their own opinions and I guess it's just plain common sense when you have gone too far with your words and threats.
lpullman
Cyber bullying? Another in a long line of renaming something to attract money and attention. If it's causing distress is probably harassment no matter what the medium. We don't need a stupid name (what's cyber about it anyway? why not e-bullying?), 'cause it's no different to in real life.
I dunno about the victims, but the people talking about it certainly need to harden up.
Scallywag
I don't know about the term but yes some people need to not be as sensitive. But I think that maybe that's a problem because it is different saying it to on's face because the can see you facial expression but once it is said online you are unsure of, if this person meant it or not. I could be mean to someone and then when they get upset just turn around and say oh i was only joking, but was I really, who knows.
No I have never been a victim simply because social media does not really interest me and I am not on it. But yes I do know people that have. Even one that took their life as well.
Maybe social networks should be more accountable, especially if there is a memory page set up for someone and people go on and defame them. They should be on top of things and just take it off, delete accounts or something.
none
Bullying is bullying, no matter what form it takes & it is not acceptable & needs to be stamped out.. Those who indulge in it need to be severly punished for it, as it is very distructive & leads nowhere for anyone. Any for of abuse is still abuse, what ever name it is given & as such needs to stop.
taras
Being a Bully in Cyberspace works because they force and intimidate the target to rise up and challenge them (the Bully) and look them in the eye....Faceless is just that for encouraging this type of aggressive behaviour.. We the enlightened civilised social constructs really suck at the Queen's English...Unless we all have obligatory open video streaming of your account.. problem solved... Face truth saves his stocks
monicag8
People don't need to harden up they need to get smart! There are many ways to avoid bullying - this includes using blocking when on the internet, and also by avoiding using images of yourself when on social media. If a person is getting upset they can even call the police to investigate messages from people in order to stop harassment. When it's cyber a person can make it go away by applying pressure on the 'off' button. A person should use this if they ever feel as though they are being attacked! Bullies often lose interest and move on after a short period of time.
Anonymous
I have had first hand experience with the devistation that cyber bullying can create
in my previous job in the education field. It can start with one comment by one disgruntled person posting a nasty retort and then all their friends come on board, sometimes not even knowing the person that they are bullying and it takes on a peer pressure factor. The person who might have said something small and insignificant can become a "hated" person by "he said" "she said" scenarios which escellate through others trying to be smart and effing each other on with no regard for the original person who might be innocent in all of this.
Porsh_a
Personally I believe we all need to have a zero tolerance for cyber bullying - but we also need to all take personal responsibility to prevent the risks where we can. With social media so big these days, we need to ensure our privacy settings are tight, that we don't go adding people who aren't really "friends",and when there is the first sign of trouble, block them, delete them and report them.
jonask
While I've never been the victim, I have unfriended and unliked all those I deem offensive to me. I see no point in doing anything else
Angel
I find it disgusting and yet another weak way of attacking others. I have been cyber bullied to a point. I think it makes it so hard for people to escape, it's hard enough being bullied in person but when it crosses that line the a absolutely no safe zones left.
I know of children (young teens) that suffer from anxiety and depressive disorders that make it extremely difficult for them to socialise with people face to face. For them Facebook twitter tumbler etc. are their only means of learning to live in this world. It effects them emotionally as well as socially and makes it even harder for them to adjust to this world.
BRODIES law ought be thrown down the throats of the bullies. Immalso in discussion at this moment about making a 'Bully File Register' so that these cowardly nasty bullies are held accountable well after the fact. To be a victim of bullying lasts well beyond high school or where the bullying happens. I believe that future employers and or uni's ought be able to turn someone down if they have a history of bullying.
seesaw
I've never been cyber bullied,and hope I never am,I feel that people who do this are gutless,mean and really pathetic who must have a very disappointing life,they should get away from their computers and help out in a charity.
seesaw
I've never been cyber bullied,and hope I never am,I feel that people who do this are gutless,mean and really pathetic who must have a very disappointing life,they should get away from their computers and help out in a charity.
dee
i have never been cyber bullied.
I cannot understand why the victims keep reading what people say about them. If its on favebook why don't they just defriend that person.
People are just using technology way too much these days.
I agree with the others who said that its cowards who do it as they don't have what it takes to face a person & say what they are saying on the internet. This is making people very impersonal.
Andrewsgirl
I don't agree at all with Cyber Bullying, however, I do feel that some people make themselves very vulnerable to this sort of thing. People should limit themselves to having so much information on Social Websites and be careful about who they are making friends with on Facebook. Perhaps the best thing those being bullied can do is stop using your computer for a while, the bullies will probably give up in the end.
annie3
yes I have been cyber bullied through a social network (facebook) and it was playing one of the apps,a game where some people just take it too seriously and for months on end I was daily abused by several people so I gave as good as I got and then thought,why the hell am I letting these b****** get to me...I quit the game to solve the problem...no more bullying!
michb
Yes it does exist. I have seen examples on forums where people who either cannot spell or type too quickly or press enter before proofreading what they have typed, are replied to - not for their opinion - but just for their spelling errors. I have no idea how you can stamp out this form of bullying as the internet is open to all.
michb
Yes it does exist. I have seen examples on forums where people who either cannot spell or type too quickly or press enter before proofreading what they have typed, are replied to - not for their opinion - but just for their spelling errors. I have no idea how you can stamp out this form of bullying as the internet is open to all.
applescruffs
G'day One & All,
re: cyber bullying, I certainly have not been in a position where this may occur, or that I was aware of.As to the term cyber bullying, seems to me that it is blown up all out of proportion, it brings me to the conclusion of that wonderful old saying Sticks & Stones May Break My Bones But Names Will Never Hurt Me.For those who have been on the wrong end of cyber bullying, I'm sure it is terribly & emotionally upseting, please do not consider yourself a VICTIM, maybe try answering/commenting to these said bullys with a big THANKYOU and send them the message that all this gossip/talk about you whilst neither accurate or truthful, but acknowledge the fact that you are flattered that you able to take up so much time,energy and effort from them.
Just a different way of looking at things.... Regards, Applescruffs
lrgray
I agree with this term, but I think that it should only apply legally, for example, if someone said "I am going to get you if you dont ......". I think that often people can misconstrue a smart comment as being cyber-bullying, when it could just be somebody being very silly.
juneebabe
Cyber bullying seems to be more gutless than the normal in your face kind as these people hide behind nicknames & just get more relentless. It should all be stamped out & if anyone is bullied cyberwise or otherways they should all report it as too many people commit suicide instead of alerting family or friends to what is going on. Hey we luv you please talk to us & let us help you sort it out.I have been a victim due to my obesity - one of the worst kind in the last 12 years was from my ex-daughter-in-law & her family. No-one is perfect but they [especially her] cruel i attempted to rise above them & put myself in a better place. My life is worth more than to let them win.!! Stay safe everyone & talk to people - please don't hide the truth.
rosie
I'VE BEEN cyberbullied and by god its awful with a pac mentality especially if they know you and are around you at school, so i think its a very tough situation which needs more awareness.
dianridge
Ive never been cyber bullied and I wouldnt put myself in that position. Even though Im a member of facebook the crap that some people put on their page is so stupid their comments are so lame. And when friends get together on this site and they start fighting that where the bullying starts. The social page is there to catch with friends and family in a way where you may not be able to catch up.
Sandy
Everyone is entiled to their own opinions but they shouldnot be shared online for everyone to read.I have never experienced cyber bullying but have been often shocked what people put on facebook.
delilah
Bulling is a very nasty fact of life. Social media however takes it to a whole new level. While I have never been or personally know anyone who has had to deal with it my heart goes out to those who do. I love the internet, i think there are so many amazing things out there. Having said that I shudder at the thought of what it has done to society. From bulling to all manner of viruses (identity theft, money scams ect.) to internet predators.The courts and law officers need to catch up with the times and set laws to protect the privacy and rights of everyone. These cyber bullies are no different to agressive thugs in the street and should be delt with.
heatherch
Put an end to cycber bullies introduce heavier penalites
marcus
i agree with the term cyber bullying,but why take it so serious to the extent of suicide.if you recieve distastefull emails,let your parents,wife or husband know about it.the other option is seek help from the police or other authorities to put a stop to this stupidity.
shellt
I have never been cyber bullied but I could see how it could easily happen. The term is very real and I think it's much easier for someone to be cyber bullied than normal bullying as the person bullying can hide behind an online identity rather than doing it to someone's face.
Having an opinion and attacking someone verbally/mentally are different - no one deserves to be picked on for any reason and I wish we could stop this from happening - too many lives are scarred from bullying both directly and indirectly and it has to stop.
Anonymous
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, regardless of whether or not one agrees with that opinion.
I have a great suggestion with regards to cyber bullying........ It's called either "log off" or "shut down" and if it is being done on social networks, then the answer to this is to "block!!" the bully. It's not that hard, get that person off your social pages and use the button that shuts everything down from time to time and get out and meet real people that truely are your friends.
You can only be bullied if you allow it to happen. Sadly, yes, people need to harden up and stop being over sensitive,. Yes I know for some people it may be hard, but bullies thrive on picking on others that cave in to their pressures. Standing up to bullies will most times stop it because they no longer have a victim
momo23
Cyber bullying is increasingly prevalent with the rise of facebook and other social sites. It is almost impossible to stop/police. It is up to the individual to decide whether or not they can handle exposing themselves to online criticism/harrassment. If you are a sensitive person I think you should limit your time online as well as limiting contact to people you actually know and trust.
pants
they should be castrated
Hartmut
Hi Pants,
No offence, but, is there an echo somewhere ?
Cheerio, :-)
prettygirl
yes i have but i got the police involved and it was settled and i didn't like it very much as it made me sad and unwanted, if there was away to stop this as its unfair and downgrading
The Pres
cyber bullying, terrible term, however it seems to be out there, just think parents need to be stronger with their kids on line -
Sassa
I have never been cyber bullied before only bullied at both primary and secondary schools so I would imagine it would not be pleasant to be bullied on line.
jonzham
it should be filtered
sammy34
I myself have not been cyber bullied and I do use social media sites. I do think that as soon as someone puts up anything that can cause bulling to anyone else should have their account suspended. Yes everyone is entitled to their own opinions but I do not agree with other uses picking on that person for their opinion, if they are going to be really horrible about it that is when I think that they should keep their opinions to themselves.
Grazzer
Never been "bullied", but don't use (anti)social media.
Seems a lot of BS. If you don't like it, turn it off; or ban the abuser, whatever. Just not the "boo-hoo, someone I don't know is typing nasty stuff about me" rubbish.
godsbaby
Noone has the right to bully another person.. I think that they - those that bully on line - are scared to face people & give their opinions.. I also believe that if yr being bullied, complain, change yr site or block them, mayb just stop going on fb.. It could b as simple as using another computer or getting some else to read & answer for awhile.. No, never been bullied but know someone who was - stopped it by putting in a complaint & someone else answered the trash.. will not go into details but it stopped them..Everyone can b traced.. you are entitled to yr own opinion but not at someone else expense.. How would you feel if someone was mistreating you or someone you loved..
none
I have never been cyber bullied. the reason I do not join social networks as there are too many people with ulterior motives who just want to' mouth off' and not be responsible for what they say, they are gutless faceless persons. There are too many attacks on young people with some ending in their death. It is time the Federal Government took steps to make the owners of these sites draw up 'A Code of Ethics' preventing threats being entered on the internet. Everyone has a right to their oppinion but a threat is not an opinion. If you can't say something to a person face to face don't say anything
Gussie
For the young, cyber bullying is real, as they have not as yet matured enough to know how to handle this situation. As for the older people who are mature, they should grow up and deal with the situation by just ignoring it. In doing so, cyber bullies will get sick of trying to bully you when there is no response, and one can only hope that they grow up. Your true friends will know you for who you are, and not by what others may say about you.
typhoon
No i have not been cyber bullied but words only have power if you let them. I think that many worry too much about how others see them and cannot cope with being talked about in a negative manner. It is how you cope with those that use words to try to hurt you that is important. It was groucho marx when at a party had one woman come up to him and say " sir if you were my husband i would poison you" and to which he replied " Madam, if i was your husband i would drink it". words will only hurt us because we chose too. Cyber bullying only exists in the fear of being criticized and take away the fear and you take away cyber bullying
Kyant
solution to cyber bullying?
simple!
just click on 'delete'
ej
I have been accused of both real and cyber bullying. As I had know idea what that person was saying, I deleted them from my address. This is one of the reasons I have never touched any of the social media sites. Having friends in another country, this could be useful, as they have asked. But the more negative media attention they get, I'm staying away. Using this way to commuicate is a way of hiding, so I believe in face to face or the use of the phone.
goanna
It is very hard for young people and those in their 20s to harden up to cyber bullying. Facebook and mobile phones are the easiest way to hurt people and something should be done about it before these young victims commit suicide.
It is hard for people to harden up when thier self-esteem is destroyed.
chickclaire
I have received suspicious emails from an unidentified source. The person I think is responsible is a manager of a local business. When I confronted that person they completely denied it. I have since limited my contact with that person by insisting on phone calls and being wary of any future contact.
chickclaire
I have received suspicious emails from an unidentified source, when I confronted the business operator I thought was responsible she completely denied it. I have since restricted my contact with that business operator by insisting on phone calls rather than catching up for a coffee....that
sunray
I do agree with the terms cyber bulling! it's unfortunate that there are some people out there who have nothing better to do then use technology to vent out through disgusting languages. What people do, we cannot control! As a parent, my job is to protect my childrens from this cowards who participate in cyber bullying through discussions with them on how to deal with it if they are to be unfortunate enough to come across it.
john
I was physically and mentally bullied at high school a lot, It wasn't very nice, but as an adult I now see that it was the bullies that needed help. I dont use any social media so i havent been cyber bullied. I dont use it as it doesnt serve any useful purpose. I dont want to know if Fred had toast for breakfast or that Jane ran out of lipstick....E-mail allows me to stay in contact with my friends and family. I have so far managed to persuade my youngest from using social media as the dangers far outweigh the benefits. My youngest doesnt get bullied but i have tought him the old saying that " sticks and stones may break bones but names dont hurt anybody" The verbal bullying i received hasnt hurt me. I have respect for those that deserve respect and i pity those that dont have respect for fellow human beings. social media allows faceless bullying but it doesnt hurt you. The recipients of the cyber bullying need to suck it up and push the delete button, If they are upset then they need to close down their social sites and go and live a happy life with their real physical friends and enjoy the sunshine outside..John
john
I was physically and mentally bullied at high school a lot, It wasn't very nice, but as an adult I now see that it was the bullies that needed help. I dont use any social media so i havent been cyber bullied. I dont use it as it doesnt serve any useful purpose. I dont want to know if Fred had toast for breakfast or that Jane ran out of lipstick....E-mail allows me to stay in contact with my friends and family. I have so far managed to persuade my youngest from using social media as the dangers far outweigh the benefits. My youngest doesnt get bullied but i have tought him the old saying that " sticks and stones may break bones but names dont hurt anybody" The verbal bullying i received hasnt hurt me. I have respect for those that deserve respect and i pity those that dont have respect for fellow human beings. social media allows faceless bullying but it doesnt hurt you. The recipients of the cyber bullying need to suck it up and push the delete button, If they are upset then they need to close down their social sites and go and live a happy life with their real physical friends and enjoy the sunshine outside..John
Emerald
I've never been cyber bullied but the name fits well. I would never condone or put up with that kind of treatment in social media and would delete any person who does. I never say anything about people unless I am willing to say to the person in question.
pants
cyber bullies should be castrated
Hartmut
Hm, an interesting idea, but I think a bit over the top, and frankly it would not remove bullying nor does it include women who also do some heavy duty bullying.
After all, bullying is a matter of the brain or rather a lack of it.
botty
People have definitely got to harden up. I f they are that fragile ,what on earth are doing , getting involved on the internet, They need to get the modern world into perspective . Use their time reflecting on the atrocities, genuine sickness and poverty that manifests itself .
Blackbird
I'm in my late 40's and I LOVE facebook and do frequent it a few times a week. I did however have 1 incident that upset me..
Not quite bullying but it made me realise the impact that Negative comments etc could have on a person. There was a game/app that some of my F?B friends were using and it was asking what you thought of the person's looks. The person, a male had played the game and had chosen ( from the choice of answers available) tht they thought I was ugly. so, right there, posted on my F/B wall was this comment that so snd so thought I was ugly. I've been diagnosed with Body Dismorphia so perhaps it had a bigger impact on me? but I was soooo upset that I removed that person as a friend and put them into the Blocked list...
Fine if they really do think i'm ugly but to post it on my wall was going toooo far.. I was very hurt..
Blackbird
I'm in my late 40's and I LOVE facebook and do frequent it a few times a week. I did however have 1 incident that upset me..
Not quite bullying but it made me realise the impact that Negative comments etc could have on a person. There was a game/app that some of my F?B friends were using and it was asking what you thought of the person's looks. The person, a male had played the game and had chosen ( from the choice of answers available) tht they thought I was ugly. so, right there, posted on my F/B wall was this comment that so snd so thought I was ugly. I've been diagnosed with Body Dismorphia so perhaps it had a bigger impact on me? but I was soooo upset that I removed that person as a friend and put them into the Blocked list...
Fine if they really do think i'm ugly but to post it on my wall was going toooo far.. I was very hurt..
Hartmut
Hi Vikki,
The only thing that counts is a beautiful soul.
People who make hurtful comments are young, inexperienced souls
who have yet to learn how to communicate in a positive way - and
that 'The Law of Cause and Effects' works perfectly.
Here are a few words from the 'Desiderata' :
"You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive it to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its shams, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful."
This few images of my art may cheer you up:
http://youtu.be/snGrNxsHmg8
Cheerio, Hartmut :-)
Anonymous
Cyber bulling is cruel and should never happen. Those that do should prosecuted.
Nic_1103
I know from experience what it is like to be cyberbullied. It is true that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but people need to learn to curb the temptation to broadcast said thoughts to the world, especially when they contain vile information or comments about another person. We don't need young people pushing up the suicide rate because of cyber bullying.
Nic_1103
I know from experience what it is like to be cyberbullied. It is true that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but people need to learn to curb the temptation to broadcast said thoughts to the world, especially when they contain vile information or comments about another person. We don't need young people pushing up the suicide rate because of cyber bullying.
edna
I agree with others. I don't use Facebook or Twitter because I don't want to be bullied. I just wish there was some way of protecting young people from being bullied. I think even if you are famous it is better not to read the critics or news write ups because they are so negative. I was bullied as a child and I became very very timid wouldn't say boo to a goose as the saying goes. There was no such thing as cyber bullying then. We seem to live in a world where respect is a thing of the past. When you are young you take everything so serious because you are trying to fit in and you want to be liked. I didn't know all that stuff about believing and liking yourself when I was young.
funny72
i think its cruel and people seem tho think cause its over the internet its ok its not!
jules06
i have never been cyber bullied but i have been bullied in the work place. i know the effect of bullying and it doesnt matter what medium is used to bully it has the same intent from the bully and the same effect on the victim.. we all have to remember that the bully is a person who is not only gutless but they are insecure and often feel threatened by the person they target. we need to watch out for people who are victims of bullying and help them understand the real issue is the bullies insecurities not apparent issues the bully has the victim believe.. bullies should be held accountable. we need to have bullies brought before the seniors at schools and workplaces and the law if necesary. if we cant do this in these situations then how on earth do we get any control over cyber-bullying.. cyber-bullying does result in deaths and many people becoming crippled emotionally.
vettie
no i have never been a victim of bullying of any form. I feel get rid of these social networking sites and well cyber bullying no more.
Amandaa
No type of bullying is ok no matter how they bully does it. I think that pople who cyber bully are cowards especially if its anonymous. if you have something to say say it to the person and not behind their back so to speak and if you dont have anything nice to say dont say it at all. there is a difference between telling someone how you feel and bullying. ie telling someone you dont like them or dont agree with them apose to telling someone they are a slut etc or to go kill themselves whats the world coming to.
ab
I think the question should be - What are your thoughts on bullying? It exists in cyber space because it exists in the real world. The evidence clearly shows that It can present itself in our personal and professional lives to varying degrees in one form or another.
What do I think about bullying? It's unacceptable and should not be tolerated...it's as smple as that.
CAT17
After reading all the comments on this particular subject I agree with everyone well all but one. It is such a shame that something that can give so much pleasure is being used to bully people that they would never dream of facing and saying what they post on FB or any other social media. I use FB, but only have my own family and 4 very close long term close friends who I share joys and news with, and they share theirs with me.
Sadly some people just can't live without making others feel bad and sad. Bullying is really a way for cowards to vent their disappointment in their own misgivings and failures. I love forums like Cafestudy, but even this can be used to 'bully'. I am glad that mostly the comments on this site are very interesting and honest opinions of people who I am sure enjoy this forum to share thoughts and opinions as much as me.
Please don't use this great site to vent your anger or nastiness. Bullying in cyber space or anywhere for that matter is NOT ACCEPTABLE>
spareparts
Sticks and stones will hurt your bones, names will never hurt you, harden up, don't read the rubbish from faceless people who you are never likely to know, and if you do know them, just ignore them they will find out thru life that their attitude does not count for much. Annette
panica
While I don't agree with ANY bullying, this surely has to be easier to deal with as you can delete comments, block people and deregister your acount, effectively rendering the bullies powerless.
When my friends son died a week before his 19th birthday, that is exactly what she did, deregistered his account, as there were so many foul things said that his younger brothers were seeing. Very sad that ppl have to do this but the option is there, and young peaople should probably be a bit more careful about who they friend, and what personal info they are putting out there too. Lots of my kids friends will friend anyone who asks making them much more vunerable.
Nyse
I used to be on Facebook, but decided that I didn't need to be a part of all that cyber craziness, and I agree that you can make sure when you sign up to those sites that you choose to make your settings private, but I think it just opens up a whole world where vulnerable teenagers and young people are subjected to low-life people who think its funny to abuse and cause harm to other people.
none
I think that any kind of bullying is unacceptable, there is no such thing as someone needing to get harden up. Only an ignorant person whould come up with such a stupid comment as this.
I have never had to suffer this shameful thing, but have the utmost sympathy for anyone who has had to suffer it in any way what-so-ever. It is inhumane, & such a shocking thing to do to someone & to think that it is okay. And shame on anyone in society who may have the cance to stop this happening & does nothing about it.
Nettybear
Even in adulthood people can be cruel. Yes I agree, not to your face. My mother used to say...Sticks and stones will break your bones but words will never hurt you!!!......but I will can tell you I am 56 years old and I get hurt what people are saying - yes once again behind your back - it leaves you feeling whats happening?? and trying to defend yourself makes it worse for you - you go on the attack and then things get turned around on you - see she is nasty - she has a temper - she has got soar grapes - she is jealous and all you are trying to do is to stand up for yourself.
coversharvey
I have some minor cyber bullying, and all I did was quit the conversation and then deleted and blocked the individual.
Lockhart
I understand that cyber bullying means it occurs on the social networks.
At 81 years of age I have not experienced it; however, I have read about it and seen the damage it has done to young people.
I personally think it is abhorrent that a sick society should engage in any form of bullying and the punishment should be total exclusion from the networks and action taken in the law.
What an awful society Australia is to allow this rubbish. Bring back the cane!
Hartmut
Hi Lockhart,
Steady on there Lockhart.
I am not an Australian so I can say with impartiality that Australia is NOT an awful society, but one of the friendliest and most open-minded in the world.
Bullying and being nasty is unfortunately one of the negative parts our human nature - and that is certainly not limited to any specific nation.
kalina
I actually don't know much about cyber bullying as I have not been a victim of it...yet!
But I must agree with Maggie, that social media is getting pathetically out of control and needs to be stopped. How? Good question. I myself do have a facebook page but I hardly go on there and had decided to delete my page, I only pop on there now and then and thats not often, as I dont really know how to get around it yet. It was only through my sisters and brother forming a family group there that I decided to sign up, Im the only one that cant really be bothered about it. I have 2 sisters that are on facebook everyday.....anyway I spose we have to expect that everyone is entitled to their own opinion whether we like it or not, and if we dont like it, then press the button and get out of there. A classic example, my sister is always on facebook and one of our cousins messaged a niece of ours bad mouthing my sister for comments made on her facebook page, anyway, our niece messaged my sis bout it, and sis got upset over it. We told her to not let it worry her, but it really affected her self esteem and she took it badly...the cousin who made the very negative comments....somewhat unwarranted I must add...dosent even know the backlash effect it has had on our sister....though she will be told soon...the point being...is it worth it. Bring back the ole days of writing pen to paper or using the telephone for long distance communication...it meant a lot to recieve a letter or phone call, so much less stressful, because the likes of facebook, twitter and such, and the texting media is capable of creating a whole lot of trouble...which is already on the rise.
algo
i am new to using internet of any kind so i have not been subjected to cyber bullying as yet. when i do though i will stand up for myself. i do not understand how anybody could be bullied online, if you don't like what somone says to you give them some of thier own back or stop conversing.after all there are plenty of other pepole on the internet to talk to.
fisho
Dont take any notice, of the cyber bullies, just get on with what you are doing. These sort of people, the CB's, are some sort of weak individual that would never face you one on one
Chu
It's a shame people expose so much of their personal emotions and activities on line.A lot of things should be keep in a group or close friends in conversation. People who cyber bully are worse. If you object to something, say it in a civil way or just log off.
kreative
I use FB but i only have people i know on there and it helps me keep in touch with family and friends I wouldn't get a chance to with otherwise, especially if they are interstate and overseas.
I feel for the vulnerable being cyber-bullied though and they need to be shown how to use the settings to have only friends and family on there they trust so that they can shield themselves. Sadly, bullies have a way of making out they are saying things for your good or saying things out of genuine friendship. BULL!
I have been the subject of bullying right through my life and especially at my job a few jobs ago. I left but it still affects me. I see a psychologist who helps me with the psd that it has contributed to I am a middle aged woman and was taught the sticks and stones lesson. Sorry, but the names CAN and DO hurt. You don't know the other person's history and what has led them to be sensitive to this so saying just to toughen up is cruel and thoughtless! If everyone was tough and not sensitive, we would lose a lot of good in this world. For young people, this is especially difficult as they are also coping with changes physiologically and other pressures. You don't know what some of the homes are like either and how much support they are getting.
Cyber bullying is horrible because the ones who are doing it are gutless and the ones who receive it can go back and keep revisiting it.
Bullying is a lot more subtle these days, be it cyber or in the real world but no less damaging.
Laws need to not only be made, but also upheld! It's no use making these laws when all too often, they are underage so receive no real consequences. Maybe if we allowed consequences from a young age again appropriate to the child's age and offence, we might bring back some respect and control. If a child does an adult crime, receive the consequences accordingly but where possible, deal with it before it gets to this point.
warey
cyber bulllying is a gutless act and it hurts so many people needlessly and so many suicides have occured which destroys families and friends for a life time.To say that it is a rite to express their opinion is OK as long as it does not hurt or destroy someones self esteem or reputation The rites of the recipient are not taken into account. I was always taught that if it is not true or helpful keep it to your self.
Jesus said, " Do unto others only those things that you would want other people to do to you." The Bible tells us not to tell lies about people, this is usually what cyber bullying is about without regard to the ultimate consequence of their actions. It is gutless weekminded people who perpetrate and participate in such actions Colin
PukPuk
To be cyber bullied one has to invest their own time in reading the stuff in the first place. So if someone makes the effort to turn on the computer, sign into the website (again and again) then maybe it is time to have a look at the fool in the mirror. In our days the bully was right there in your face and a simple solution of exiting a two dimension computer screen shot was not available. As a skinny kid with no athletic prowess I learnt to give the impression of "ho-hum" and eventually the village idiot just gave up bullying.
glory
No I have not. But I do know that it happens and the people who cyber bully should be dealt with. It can lead to suicide
Anonymous
It covers impersonation, abuse, attack, character assassination and a whole lot. It is done at various levels to achieve a variety of effects, good to the user: uncomfortable to the owner of the account (victim).
The term is a bit narrow in my opinion, considering how far it can go. Bullying does not cover all that. I agree, people should learn to use as many security options as possible.
I have indirectly been affected by this act before, indirectly because, someone's profile was used to send an email to me to my previous email address. i contacted him and fortunately, we had it resolved on-on one.
Anonymous
It covers impersonation, abuse, attack, character assassination and a whole lot. It is done at various levels to achieve a variety of effects, good to the user: uncomfortable to the owner of the account (victim).
The term is a bit narrow in my opinion, considering how far it can go. Bullying does not cover all that.
I have indirectly been affected by this act before, indirectly because, someone's profile was used to send an email to me to my previous email address. i contacted him and fortunately, we had it resolved on-on one.
Barb
Why are people allowing themselves to be so affected by what some very sad, self worthless individual says about them on social media? Feel sorry for them, turn the computer off, don't let the world see your personal feelings/life, but please don't give them the satisfaction of seeing that their small minded nastiness can have an affect on you. As for Don, you need to grow up and get a life.
manneke
you just ignore them and if they get no reaction they will stop
wendel
Harden up people, cyber bullies are cowards, obviously using this method because they're afraid to confront people face to face. Think like you know you're better than them and you'll have no problem.
briar
Like all bullies they hide behind a screen because they are cowards and like most cowards only think of themselfs and dont care about the harm they do.
lyjaam
I think "Cyber bullying" is disgraceful. My grandaughter who is in England has been affected by this. Her father who left when she was a baby has become a facebook predator. He started grooming my grandaughter's friend, saying inappropriate sexual things to her. My grandaughter and her friend are 14 years old. He was arrested and is not to go on facebook again or to go anywhere near the girls.
However it has affected both the girls in a bad way as he livesd in the same town and they are both scared they will come across him when they are in town.
Facebook really needs to tighten up on this.
ozziedigger
Cyber bullying ? Well why do people leave themselves open and fair game to encourage it ? These "bullies" should never be heard from,they all talk through their rear passage about useless crap.They must be special weirdos to get their jollies from running people down from the secrecy of a pen name.Instead of being totally ignored they are constantly encouraged by uptight victims------just
ignore the idiots and they will return to their garbage tip.
vikkstar
If someone has unkind remarks made to them online then just delete and ban that email address. Those people are stupid and not answering their remarks is the best way to go.
Hartmut
Of course that is a very good policy in general, but sometimes it is also good to put those mindless people in their place by answering
them and also to show them the errors of their way, because given their limited intellect they may not even be aware what they are doing.
dondo
I strongly believe cyber bulling is the most gutless act anyone can do to anyone else. Whats wrong with these cyber bullies, GET A LIFE you gutless wonders.
Daveo
I have rejected 2 attempts. Both were pathetic. After a polite but firm reply - SILENCE !
Anonymous
I don't disagree with the term but consider that use of social media by teens must be monitored by parents. One way of doing this is keeping computers in
family room space. There is also room for some 'toughen up' teaching for all children but each individual needs to be treated as just that--INDIVIDUAL-and acceptable as they are.
Beejay
kfactor
Unfortunately my daughter was a victim of cyber bullying, and it was definitely an eye opener for me as a parent. We were able to track the person, but that didn't stop them. Our daughter is now too frightened to touch the computer fearing that it will happen again. We hear about this happening too often, and there have been tragic outcomes. We as a community need help, I don't want to hear of anyone else becoming the next victim.
Lily
it's a coward's weapon; confrontational yet hiding behind an alias or fake account (in some cases). I have never been a victim of cyber bullying (I'm hoping it stays that way). I guess drawing the line comes with perception - a choice of letting it affect you or not. why engage when you can disengage?
eveniveneg
Cyber bullies are pathetic weak little creatures who are safely tucked up in their beds and find it so easy to be abusive without any consequences. I have never been bullied online but have 5 children who i fear for. Things like Twitter and Facebook should be policed and when they are abusive or threatening in their posts their accounts should be either frozen or shut down, absolutely!!
Noels1968
I have been the victim of cyber bullying, when I first started using the internet about 15 years ago. It scared me to death, and I didn't go back into any chat room for years. Now, I'm on FB and loving it.. I have had some nasty ppl in one of the games, but that's what the block button is for.. but if I found out one of my friends/kids were bullying someone else I would go off my head at them. There is enough bullying in real life, without cyber bullying as well.. we all need to be aware of it, and do something about it if we see or hear of it :)
Gerry1945
Cyber Bullying, it does not exist if you stop playing along with these idiot's.
Simple, Report Them, Delete Them, Block Them, they are gone!! there are many alternatives.
Would you put your hand in a lions cage and expect not to be bitten? Same applies to Social Media they enjoy you playing the game with them that's how they get their jollies.
Do not take them seriously, get rid of them immediately.
Anonymous
Sadly cyber bulling is just a reflection of the attitudes that society today is riddled with. so many people are full of hate and vindictiveness and dont care less that words hurt and can stick in peoples minds and cause huge damage. anyone who says online anything of a nasty mean and ugly nature should not be allowed on chats or in discussions. most who do this sort of thing have usually got low self esteem or a bad /sad life hence why they pick on others and try to empower them selves by causing bad reactions in others. But in the end theres no excuse and people who get subjected to this sort of thing should just block them immediatly never respond and dont take it personally, if they can ....
lynneeime
My daughter was cyber bullied while she was at school. She used to get so upset and we even went to the police about it but at the time she had deleted the comments. We were told that if it continued to print out the comments and get back in contact with the police. I also went to her high school because we knew who the people involved with it were. They all had mediation counselling at the school, which seemed to help a bit, but it got bad at one stage where my husband's car got egged. He was not happy about it. People can express opinions but as long as they are not hurtful and tell people to kill themselves. You don't realise how quickly a person can become depressed and if it continues and the parent is not aware of it, your child can become suicidal and then may commit suicide. People need to think first before they put up comments on social media. They need to sit back and think, what would I do or feel if I received the hurtful comments that I was going to send to someone else. Only then will this behaviour change.
pointy
When I was young I was a target for actual bullies but at least if I stood up to them face to face they usually backed down and evcentually became friends of mine.
In my opinion cyber bullies are just cowards who can't make friends and don't have the mental capacity to deal with people face to face, who they are actually afraid of. They hide behind avatars and screen names that do not reflect their personalities.
They also prey on others who show some signs of vulnerability and unfortunately the atacks the bullies make are targetted to inflict mental pain on their victims.
In finishing I have to admit that I do not have any "social" (what a joke term) media accounts following my closing my facebook account and will not be opening any in the future.
If anyone needs to contact me they can call me talk to me or shock horror send me a letter. When they see me.it would make for a more meaningful conversation.
jules 1
No I have never been cyber bullied. I do feel the 'powers to be' SHOULD be doing something to have this all STOPPED, it's got completly out of control, and not sure if it can be stopped.!
These 'sick' people are obviously 'bored' with their lives, so want to make other people suffer, and mess their lives up.
All I can say is these people are the 'SCUM' of the world.!
So very sad when you hear these young people take their own lives due to this cyber bullying!
missjanew
I lkove social media, and havny been cyber bullied. Like all new things, they are sorted out, but until then we all need to be vigilasnt and careful
Anonymous
i havnt been a victim of cyber bullying, however i do smpathis with ppl who have been as i have been a victim of bullying so no how they feel. i completly beleave this term is justifyed and that cyber bullying as like normal bullying can do real harm to ppl and there lives.
bydesign
Wow - look at what this discussion has thrown up! Social media is not to blame. It may be the enabler, but bullies (cyber or otherwise) will continue to exist in one form or other regardless
simla
Yes super88, I have to agree with your point about the bad example being set by some radio announcers and some reporters who present only one side of a story. I have been on the receiving end of this kind of abuse, and there is a feeling of disempowerment that can have a lasting negative effect. It's a form of injustice that, in some individuals of unsound mind, could have dire consequences, both for the victim and the perpetrator. On the Issue of the soundness of mind of some of the cyber bullies. Personality disorder comes to mind, as well as issues of medications some people are on distort perception/ reality. I've had personal experience of one such person who was mentally unwell, suffered delusions/psychotic states. Luckily he wasn't on line, or he'd have been a CASE . Just goes to show you just never know who you are dealing with. Best to ignore/ delete them.Assume that they are unwell, and have compassion for their sad state of being.
super88
Got to agree with you bydsign,
Take a look at the rest of the community,
Television reporters who hound their victims to sensationalise a story (more often than not the journalist only presents one side of the story without investigating the other side).
Radio anouncers (shock jocks) who can't wait to personally attack callers and others, and use the most arrogant aggressive language they can get away with.
It's all about decency and manners and it seems these are on a declining path in our community.
Continuing to ignore and accept intollerance in other areas of society is as much to blame as Social media.
Jojo1
No I don't agree with cyber bullying, it hurts people. No I have not been the victum of cyber bullying. If you can't say something nice about someone don't say anything.
nonni
The way technology is going this problem can only get worse. One reason I think is it has something to do with upbringing as children today do not relate to their parents as they think they are far more more intelligent because of the cyber system and the parents do not know what does go down..... as a lot of parents are too busy surviving and trying to give their children the best therefore they really don't know ...but also deep down the people that bully especially the adult kind really have a problem and project their own failings onto the one being bullied I know as I have been there also they have a very mean streak and are very unhappy people.....
TulTul
There a vast difference between expressing one's opinion and bullying in any form and one should not have to Einstein to see the difference. I also believe that so called freedom of speech is used as an excuse by by some weak individuals who hide behind it as so called justification for the things they say. Just look at so called Parliamentary Protection where our Politicians gave come out with the most outrageous statements regardless of the insult and hurt they may cause and walk away.
Jess
If everyone just ignored it, they would soon stop as no-one would be reading it anyway. Cyber bullies are just useless, gutless nobodies on their way to nowhere.
Feather
I think it is disgustiing and should be stopped. I have never been a victim of it myself though
Anonymous
I believe the term 'cyber bullying' is entirely appropriate. The fact one person (or group of people) is able to denigrate & victimise another person is both degrading, disgusting & dangerous. I totally disagree that people should harden up as the behaviour is against all ethics of a decent & caring society.
I haven't been cyber bullied (I am 73yrs old) but my granddaughter of 14 has been cyber bullied by another girl in her class which caused devastation in her life & she became severely depressed. The girl cyber bullying even involved her mother who cast dispersions on my granddaughter's mother - what sort of a role model is the mother?
The line needs to be drawn where the postings are shut down in EVERY situation of cyber bullying.
Hartmut
I Totally agree !
Viv
just delete them they don't own you. change you name and profiles if you need and make your face book settings more secure.
Romney352
I was bullied at school and it wasn't very nice plus I didn't know how to handle it except try to keep out of his way.I haven't been cyber bullied as I don't go on the web sites that say things that would hurt people in many ways because of that very fact that some people think because they behind a screen that they won't get caught but if the powers to be wanted to find someone they could !!!, then who 's back tracking????
NellieJB
I joined Twitter and within 2 weeks got so much spam and disgusting comments I quit and it cost me lots of $'s too!
Captain Slog
Good one, Hartmut!
I've heard worse, and perhaps you have, too. The poms call these Twits. . . (I JUST thought of MY actions) REPLACE the "i" with an "a" and you'll get the picture. I actually wrote the word and decided NOT to. I corrected myself in view of what were discussing and wanted to do right.
By the way, I WON $77. in tonight's LOTTO "STRIKE." I got TWO Numbers, or Strike 2. Its about time I got something.
Good Luck Everyone! you, too, Harty!
I Mofftabed! G'night! I've got to go and shut down.
Hartmut
I never joint Twitter, because....
I thought anything that has the word TWIT in it, can't be that clever, ha ha ha :-)
(It's a joke folks, no insulting replies please!)
Captain Slog
Hi Nellie,
I got into TWITTER a while back, because to get into the Newsletter I had signed to could only be read as long as you were on TWITTER.
When I signed up, I was absolutely CLUELESS about what to do. I was on Dial-Up then and things took ages to happen. I wrote something in, answer to a question as I remember. "What are you doing now?" I think it said. "Trying to figure out how to use this! Can anybody help me?" I got nothing back.
When I got into it again, I saw all these "followers" and I clicked to see what they were about, and they were all these people I don't even know. I found it very disturbing! I don't know if my details are still there or not, but I haven't been back since.
I got a Mail from Farce Book, from some rellies who wanted me to get in touch and I found THAT site very invasive, too. It is especially invasive, because once they have your details, there's NO WAY of getting rid of them. Even if you're dead. That's what I read, anyway.
I still get Mails saying I have six alerts to repsond to. I just DELETE it.
STEER CLEAR OF IT!!!
Robertofgoodna
I believe that many people are releasing their subconscious thoughts when they use social media (especially if they have had a few drinks, which removes their inhibitions). I've never suffered from cyber bullying, but I can understand and sympathise with victims who have. The only defence is to consciously "harden up" if you wish to enjoy the benefits.
jaguar
No, not bullied (yet). Bullies are indeed bad people usually hiding behind a pseudonym. In simple terms any wording designed to hurt/offend another person is a deliberate act to cause hurt and as such is not an "opinion". An opinion is an interpretation of a set of facts/observations and is absolutely every persons right. It ceases to be an opinion when it places slanderous comments or insulting/swearing words in descriptions of a person or a persons actions. Disagreeing with another person's opinion with measured logical language refuting their argument is fine but saying they are an idiot or similar (USUALLY MUCH WORSE) is really witless bullying and does nothing to produce further understanding of elements of a discussion. Cheers, Jem
wombat
I think cyber bullying can be over the top in some cases by immature specimens of humanity.These days you cannot joke with the opposite sex as you used to in the 60's and 70's.Women asked for equality and now they don't like it.Even professional sportsmen need to toughen up as sometimes things are said in the heat of battle that are not to be taken seriously .That said women can be the most vicious users of cyber bullying against other women.Some young men go to far and we need to draw a line in the sand as to what is ok and what is not.But the bottom line is not using social media is the best defence.
Litaq
I haven't been cyber bullied nor will I let myself be in that situation. Unfortunately social networks are being abused but still you can control what you allow yourself in. Cyber bullying will only happen if you let it, yes it's just words on screen and you have options how to react or what to do. You could stop that particular person from contacting you online by reporting him to the site admin or blocking that person and blocking all his/her messages.
Buggy
Cyber bullying is more prevelant as it is a "faceless" crime where people can hide behind the anonimity of their screen names and cause great damage to many people. I hope that the technical boffins can come up with some way to filter it out
sr20desr20de
I play too many video games any way, the pc games the ps3 games etc, the way certain children/ teenager talk to others is unbelievable, i'm 25 so to me handling the situation is a bit easier, if not outright ignoring, but to the younger ones they would absorb this behaviour, it is all most like because it is on a computer game they can say what ever they want, as if the other person does not really exist let alone think of the other persons feelings. Yes some would just be a bit of harmless teasing but that in its self creates problems, then they just get worse and worse, who can be the funniest, who can be the meanest,the list could go on. What I am trying to get at is quite often it goes to far and I just think that it is because it is on the internet or over a network they think it ok. I wish they could stop and think in real life if this were to happen to me how would I feel, react. It is not as bad as I make it sound but there is a case to be heard. In terms of hardening up it is a little bit like saying it is ok, you could very well harden up but where do you draw the line and can it go too far. Generally people get along better when they treat each other nicley so if someone is going to bully you I dont think it is wise to hang around that person.
Anonymous
Cyber bullying is just as serious as being bullied in real life situations. The traumatic effect of bullying or trolling can harm someone's self-esteem and emotions to the point that it might even cause the person to suicide. For many older people, the word "trolling" means to poke fun at someone to get a reaction out of them. But now it means an internet user who sends inflammatory or provocative messages designed to elicit negative responses. Eventually trolling can effect the emotions and become seriously harmful, particularly for the majority of teens. And I believe that even adults can be affected too, especially those that are sensitive and susceptible to being affected emotionally.
Kj1809
I've not been bullied online but as a kid I was the one the others would think it was funny to run from, just because they could run faster. I also have an older sibling who caused me huge amounts of grief as a child. I use facebook to keep in touch with family and friends. I think kids/teenagers should not be allowed to use it as much as they do - how that would be done I'm not sure. I also think if a child is a victim of cyber bullying they need to stay away from social media and absolutely report it to the company running the site. "Do people need to harden up?" It's more about taking responsibility for your actions and attitude. Own opinions - remember that saying "If you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything"? more people need to remember this or be told about it. I'm not advocating to lie but to use manners instead. I know kids will find away around a it and continue but the there is an amount of responbility required from both sides. Perhaps what is required is that kids need to be taught to have better manners and respect for others. I realise it's old fashioned to say it but our parents generation (baby boomers) had things going for it in this respect. Not that their generation was perfect.
June
I have never personally been cyber bullied and I only use Facebook when a family member or close friend contacts me. I would not have subscribed to Facebook but for the fact that it is the only way I can see photos from close family members who live far from me. That said, I think some of the things people say on social media can be terribly cruel and just plain nasty. It makes me sad to think of this especially among so many young people. I read of people being driven to suicide, which makes me worry that these cyber bullies do not even feel remorse. We seem to be fighting a losing battle because Facebook in particular does not seem to want to do something to control this
Jen
Cyber bullying is a very real problem. I have a son who has been attacked on two ocasions and it is so frustrating. An opinion is one thing, cruel,nasty spiteful comments are something very different and have consequences for those who may be experiencing stress from schoolwork and are just trying to get through being a teenager (which is hard enough). If you would not like these sorts of comments made about you, then you should make sure you don't say them to someone else. Basic respect for another person seems to be missing these days. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
3052590
best way to avoid cyber bullying and trolling is to ignore it. trolls says the things they say because they get a kick out of seeing people get upset, but if you simply dont respond you take away their ammunition. as soon as you reply to a troll they have won. you have to remember that no matter what you say they are just going to say something even more hurtful to upset you, the only way to stop them is to ignore them, the beauty of the internet means they cant get in your face like real life, and say hurtful things to you so you react, you can just go to another webpage and then they cant do anything to you
MUSCLES
no, i have never been a victim of cyber bullying. i believe cyber bullies are usually weak, gutless people who take pleasure in putting people down. usually face to face they are weak and gutless. that is why when i was 10 i took up martial arts to protect myself and family. i havent had a issue, i have been able to talk myself out of a few close calls though, but was prepared to do what i had to do. any computer currently running windows 7 has what is called a snipping tool. if i was to be cyber bullied, i would take snips of every threat, or nasty comment and go to the police with it
jjdrer
People especially those seeking employment need to be aware that prospective employers can access your facebook. I know of one 14 y.o. who got the biggest shock of her life when told that. She is being led on by the ring leader of the class.
The situation is so serious that it has been reported to the school. Parents have also threatened to report it to the Police and request that they explain to her the risky outcomes in life. In SA we have had girls who have met guys via facebook, lured into meeting them and murdered.
purpleboo
Everyone is entitled to their opinion but it has to be written correctly and intelligently, even constructive criticism is the way to go.
purpleboo
It's horrible. These bullies need to do anger management courses and/or see a professional.
I agree with the others on here that these victims don't have to read it.
Why put yourself through that?
jjdrer
Other threatening cyber scams came from Singapore and Malaysia, which by sheer coincidence were using the name of a reputable international bank
Captain Slog
Hello Blossom (What a lovely name!)
I get those sort of really crap Mails, too, but I have a little trick to deal to it all. I use. . . MAILWASHER. Before I get ANY of my Mail, I open MailWasher (No Space) and get it in that. Then I just got through it (Right Click to see what it is) and it NEVER shows everything. NO IMAGES, and just a bit of text. If its not familiar to you, or is trying to be, just mark it as SPAM. This is the new Version and you just click on a RED Box and it turns into a Bar. Its the same if its from a Friend only its GREEN.
There are also three boxes to tick. Delete, Bounce and BlackList. Then you simply Click on the Envelope (Process Mail) and it GETS RID of it all. The ONLY Mail left are the GREEN ones. Wait a wee while while it finishes what its doing, then close it and Open your Mail Browser. I am using NETSCAPE 4.7 because I like its format.
I notice you said you get Mails from scumbags claiming to be christians. I HATE christians and ANYONE religious!! They're ALL evil bastards!! (Pardon me) I will NEVER EVER trust them. THey ALWAYS tell you you can "trust" them or have "faith" in them. Its a LIE!!! They use it like a shield to prey on the gullible and week, or kids and other people who don't know any better. Yes, the ones I get are from Nigeria, too! Some are from Asia, some claim to be from USA, the FBI, Western Union. Some outfits that claims my e-Mail Address has won me Millions of Dollars. Yeah, RIGHT!!
Do a YAHOO! Search for MailWasher and Download it. Its FREE and very easy to use. This one even opos up a small window with HOW TO USE MAILWASHER every time it starts. It can be deactivated if you no longer need it. Its GREAT! Get it and try it, everyone. I Promise you won't regret it.
Remember! DON'T get upset with these scams and rip offs Just simply GET RID OF THEM!!
Take good care, Blossom! Best Wishes!
jjdrer
Not cyber bullying in the normal sense, but I have had some rather nasty threatening SCAM emails. One in particular was reported to the Major Crime Section of Police (fraud) The guy professed to be a devout Christian (biggest international scammer more like). be a solicitor and live in England and was using the name Her Majestys Revenue Commission, another solicitor ?? and International Internet Police which doesn't exist in UK at all) . He didn't live in England at all. He was using skpe from Nigeria. He was also silly to send a letter to me in Aust which I handed to Police who made contact with him but were unable to prosecute.
Hartmut
The Scam you encountered was one of the many frauds that criminals from Nigeria (and elsewhere) use to get at your money.
Always check with the original banks etc. they pretend to come from, also google their name or major line, because many report those frauds to them.
Red
No, not me personally , but my son has. I think it is a low act, as you don't know who it is who is 'writing' this rubbish that causing so much grief and anger to the person concerned. As a Parent I am worried that this problem is getting to the point of being out of control,with most teenagers today being on facebook on a daily basic, with no supervision.. As for hardened up, any one who has been bullied will be able to answer this question easily, the effects are long term , as is abuse.
victory
I have not personally been cyber bullied, I hope it never continues as the future looks gloom for the next generation. I sometimes find e-mails that aren't very nice, which I erase immediately,Icall that a kind of invasion of privacy,which is a way of cyber bullying,so I think the more constant security the better.Technology needs to slow just a dash.
Gordo
It's never been a problem for me (may it stay that way) even on facebook. If someone tries it on, I block them or de-friend them. Personal opinion... If it's a problem, it's not a baby boomer problem.
Hartmut
I think the term cyber-bullying describes people who indulge in it perfectly. Bullies are usually ignorant hooligans who are trying to assert themselves over others with brutishness in words and deeds, because they can not communicate in a civilized way, but counter
different opinions not with politeness or facts, but with foul and attacking insults.
Of course every one is entitled to their opinion - but a line should be drawn when that opinion is expressed with disgusting language.
Tricia
Yes I have been cyber bullied on another site. It was extremely hurtful and upsetting to be accused of being racist and anti muslim simplely for saying that we as a country needed to stop the influx of illegal boats. I have no problem with any race or religious belief just come into the country legally and don"t try to change our cultural beliefs. It was an intense and visious attack which made me glad of a Avatar. However the up side was that I found world wide people who objected to the way I was being bullied and in fact now have a number of new friends.
Meisjosie
Cyber bullying is wrong my sister was cyber bullied and it hurt but not just her but it hurt me because it not only affects the person getting bullied but it affects the people around them!! Which I think people need to really think before they write... Just like when someone gets bullied so much that they take their own life it affects everyone!!! But then when that happens the people that did the bullying feel bad?? Wtf for??? They have done the damage already you can't bring someone back from the dead!! Maybe they should of thought about it before they started!!
julkbear
I don't agree with bullying at all, but I do believe that when it comes to cyber bullying it is normally just an reaction to something you've written (said) thinking about the attacks on our 'famous' people Robbie Farrias reactions was awesome he didn't overreact, he went to the right people
grajac
Say what you like about yourself but do not comment with the idea of hurting others This is not free speech
sonb4
If i have ever been cyber bullied then i'm not aware of it. I tend to view other peoples opinions and thoughts as unique information that is not for me to make assumptions about, it's just how they feel or think. Whilst i don't doubt there may be deliberate and premeditated cases occurring i also think there are a lot of people that take way too many things personally when they aren't intended to be that way and rather than initiate communication to garner the real story they just assume the worse and feel hurt or upset as a result.
Joelle
I think cyber bullying is wrong and carried out by faceless bullies who express their frustrations, bitterness and jealousy towards others with seemingly little repercussions. I guess you have to have a thick skin these days and in some cases its best not to read posts that are upsetting lest it get the better of you! Seems the bullies are not just children in the playground these days!
shoregurl
Cyber bullying it happens and it does suck. I have come to know someone who has been through it. Even some one close to her encouraged it. BUT in some cases if the person who is ment to be the one being cyber bullied has a go at someone and gives as good as they are taking on a social networking site then yeah its fair game.
mismoo
Bullying, Cyber Bullying it's all the same! Picking on someone who isn't strong enough to defend themselves. My daughters have experienced both types. My eldest now nearly 31 was bullied at school until she was close to suicide and this was at an exclusive private girls school. They had no idea how to handle the situation so we changed schools. My next child aged 13 recently suffered the wrath of a ex friend who started a massive cyber bullying event and it escalated into the school grounds. Fortunately times have changed and these issues are dealt with swiftly and with great results. As we had already been there we were able to handle the situation quickly before psychological damage could be done. I think bullying of any kind should become a criminal offense as so many lives are lost because of it and it really hurts to see your young or even older children and friends suffer because of it. As you can see I'm very passionate about this subject. I have a Zero tolerance to bullying of any kind.
Anonymous
I heard about cyber bullying recently. My sincere request to parents. teachers, and other friends to take care of this seriously. All this unwanted problem starts from such places only. Pl avoid sending them. Cyber business should be highly controlled by the state Govt introducing strict vigilance and fine for such incident. Hope u all take care of this.
Nagendra
sr citizen
dave7072
I think if you are willing to be led by someone to the point where you are convinced or depressed/affected enough to kill yourself then perhaps you do need more supervision and guidance in life, than you have received thus far.
Anonymous
Dave, sady when someone is suffereing from depression or any other mental illness they usually arent able to think in clear rational ways. or even realise they are ill sometimes. thats why others need to stand up for them and help them get the help they need. if youre isolated because of illness physical or mental or for any other reason, people often seek out company online which is why they become so vunerable to cyber bullying. its not really about being 'willing led" its more that words cut cut deeper and the reactions to them are more intense if youre in a bad place mentally or emotionally. being alive isnt easy for everyone.
Joosy
I never use social media, as I'm not interested in talking to people I don't know and can't see. But I just got an email from Cafe Study about cyber bullying and just wanted to make a comment. First off, why do people feel the need to type out every inane and useless thought that pops into their head? Secondly, if you don't have the basic human decency to say something to someone face to face then don't take the cowards way out and put it on the internet. Thirdly, can someone please explain why some people feel that they just have to be nasty? By the way, the third question is just a theoretical one, I don't actually require an answer. I've just put it out there so that maybe the people who are nasty can do some soul-searching.
Anonymous
You are absolutely right Hartmut - behind every bully is a coward trying to get out. Civilised folk have no need to bully others as they have enough self respect & self-worth to do so. These bullies do equate freedom of speech with a right to express themselves by attacking others in such a disgusting manner. I would advise them to take a hard long look at themselves before insulting others.
Hartmut
Nasty people, like a Hitler and most Bullies, do not do "Soul-Searching", therefore they can not be reasoned with in a civilised way and also because they do not understand the term 'civilised'.
And in regard to cyber-bullying, they equate freedom of speech with
a right to express themselves by attacking people with the crudest words they can think of.
Kat82
I think its pathetic and very childish. People should just shut up and leave others alone,
ump
I agree with this term BUT I have never been a victim BECAUSE I do not believe in this type of social media.
This type of occupation shows that today's young people do not have enough to occupy themselves AND they are only opening themselves to such victimisation and lack of privacy.
Get a life that is constructive and helpful to fellow man/woman.
Gem
spunky70
well I have been picked on would be a better word, by my sons immature friends. Through facebook when I first joined. Because I couldnt go to his yr 12 formal dispite me buying tickets, I had a new born 1mth early and things changed. But I learnt to put my setting to private.
On another note myself and other females commented on 1 of the posts here for teenage mothers. I am not 1 but my 20yr old son gf is pregnant.
And there was 1 guy that was hell bent on putting everything we said down and twisting our words.
So yes every one is entitled to their opinion, but it has to stop at putting the other person down for the things they have done, because not all 2 lives are the same / nor people
Rewster
you can't be bullied if you don't read the texts or tweets or however they're doing it. personally i believe everyone should be able to say anything and everything they want to say but it is up to the rest of us if we get upset by those words. i also think responding to the a***holes that write the stuff is exactly what they want. don't let them win!
Rewster
sure but don't you think that when you tell that person that they are crude and ignorant that then that makes you the bully. also if you think that they would say "oh gee i was wrong" you're dreaming. in a perfect world we would all get along but we're far from perfect. people in a free society should be free to say what they want but we also have the freedom to ignore what they say. don't give them power by biting back, that is exactly what they want you to do.
Hartmut
I respectfully disagree with you on one point - we should not say anything we like - without considering the consequences, or when what we say is deliberately aimed to abuse or hurt a person with foul
language.
Also, sometimes it is necessary to let the abuser know that they are
ignorant and crude persons, so that they, hopefully, see the errors of their primitive ways.
Marian
Cyber bullying, though hurtful are just words on a screen. Remember the old saying, 'sticks and stones..' They can't hurt you if you don't let them. It's not the receiver with the problem. It is the senders whose intentions are to be nasty, spiteful and get pleasure out of hurting others. Who has the problem here, I ask you?
eddie
The term is fine. Everybody understands what it means. I have never been a victim of cyber bullying - maybe because I'm older and my friends would never do that kind of thing. Also, all my friends really are friends.
However, I think it can be a very damaging and hurtful thing for young, innocent people. Young people need to be educated on what to do - how to avoid it happening, and how to handle it if it does happen. Perhaps people are entitled to their opinions, however, setting out to deliberately hurt someone goes beyond expressing an opinion. From what I have read online, trolls are not just expressing opinions. They are vicious, nasty and have obvious personal problems.
Scallywag
I not sure if we can educate them, they seem to love what they are doing.
MariaG
I have not been a victim of cyber bullying but was treated badly as a child because I was what other kids called "different". It hurts, no matter the method. That was a long time ago, before bullying was a word and I suffered considerably because I didn't know how to deal with it. If I had the resources then that are available now, it might have been different.
I agree with Mouse that cyber bullies are cowards. It's so much easier to be cruel, vicious and demeaning when you don't have to put a face to the name.
I think that in this day and age, education of our kids, at an early age, is so very important. Also, it doesn't hurt to have the village raise the children.
There are two sides to the coin. Kids need to be taught how to handle cyber bullies. On the other hand, other kids need to be dealt with immediately when their bad behaviour is discovered. Sometimes I wonder, where are the parents?
As an example, I tend to monitor facebook messages left by younger members in my family. I noticed a not so pleasant conversation that was being held about one of the kid's teachers. This was nipped in the bud. I brought it to the mother's attention who dealt with it immediately in the proper manner. As a result, amongst other things, the membership was shut down and, fortunately, a lesson learned.
We have to be ever vigilant. I do feel this sort of stuff can begin with the young, and if not addressed, carries on into adulthood. There's something quite pitiful about a grown man/woman bullying someone online. One can only assume these pathetic individuals don't have a life.
Things today seem to be getting out of control. Then, as with anything else, change can come with one action at a time. Like a pebble thrown into a pond...it starts with a ripple. Look after things in your own circle, and hopefully, the circle will widen.
Bellxchat
A good place to start would be no internet access in children's bedrooms. Computers/phones whatever are used in public space - eg, the lounge room - so parents can keep a bit of eye on what their kids are up to?
vanspike
A very mature answer & I agree
Don
What's wrong with the world? FaceFuck
Captain Slog
Let's try this again!
idletriffid@hotmail.com
Failing that, "idle triffid at hot mail dot com"
Captain Slog
Supplimentary. (NOT my every day Address) and perhaps we can discuss this further. Is that okay?
I just had a look at your Art Works. Very Off World, some of it.
Drop me a line at
Lets just say that the Jager Division is ALL ears and eyes.
Captain Slog
Supplimentary, (Hint)
Good one, Hartmut! I don't think "Sloggy" works in my case. (See Hint!) I don't think the Penny's dropped with anyone yet.
Is "Hartmut" your Real Name, or Screen Name? It sounds German. Nothing wrong with that, though.
Did you notice in my comment about Don, that even I made typo's? I got the Keys round the wrong way when I was telling you about him possibly using the wrong keys. I should've referred to the "T" and the "S". Never mind! We still don't know what he meant but it sure stirred up a can of snakes.
Hartmut
Yes Sloggy, Harty is just fine ! :-)
Captain Slog
NEXT DAY. . . Gid Moaning! (Yawwwwn!)
Funny you should mention Don's comment and doubt about it being a typo. As I was scrolling through each page to read the many responses we were getting, I happened to notice his comment flashing by, and I actually had another look at it. I don't think there is any way AT ALL that "BLANK" was meant to be "facts." The "U" is nowhere near the "A", and likewise for the "E" and the "K". So, it could be a malicious comment. And, being a oncer, Don could be just some kid pushing his luck.
Whoever Don is, if he is still reading all this, maybe he's testing us, or he did it for "fun." Whichever, I think he should do the right thing and come clear and Apologise to us all. I did to him for what I said. We aren't ALL mean. Like you said, Harty (is that okay?), if we ALL replied in the way Don did, WE would be the abusers, which is totally WRONG! WE are BETTER than that!
Hartmut
Hi Captain,
I do not think Don's comment was a typo, but a deliberate attempt to
upset and insult. So basically you have nothing to explain, or feel concerned about with your reactions to it.
(The only thing we all have to guard against is - that we do not reply in a Don like manner, - which no one on this site has done)
Captain Slog
Hi Bellxchat and Mouse,
I just thought I'd lighten the atmosphere a bit, and looking at all the "Ooosp! too lote!" to correkt spollinge mistooks, we could do with a bit.
Q: What Blood Group do Journalists have?
A: Type O.
Type O! Ha! What a Wally!
We were briefly dsicussing Ztypos (THAT's a good One! The ones above were deliberate. These are bloody GENUINE!) most of this arvo, and that gag just popped into my head. I just thought I'd get rid of it and try it out.
Silly, aye?
Captain Slog
Hi Hartmut,
Thank you for your comment and support.
What I should have added when I said that was, WE are Responsible for for our own actions! Be they Good or Bad, WE are responsible for them. Even writing this, I am responsible for what I say, and in view of what I said earlier about Don, it makes me THINK of what may have happened Well, we won't go there. It was rather an over reaction. All because it may have been a simple typo.
I was bullied when I was a kid, too, and that was only because I never knew what violence was until I moved to a town where the kids always biffed each other.
When I was very young, I had NEVER been hit at all by my parents, and the very first person to ever hit me was a filthy nun. Just because I missed my bus home from school and had to walk home. I was wondering what the heck was going on! WHY am I getting strapped?
The second one to hit me was also an evil nun, a big fat ugly bitch she was, too. I got whacked around the legs with a 3ft. wooden ruler (Anyone remember those?) for absolutely NO reason at all. On both occasions I was only FIVE. My mother hit the roof when I told her what happened.
So, yes, bullying really upsets me, and these days, I just WON'T tolerate it AT ALL.
Hartmut
Your quote - 'WE DO have our Universal Right to SAY whatever we like and DO whatever we like, but we have absolutely NO RIGHT to abuse it.'
This is of course correct, we do not have a right to abuse anyone one or anything.
There is a very simple Law which covers everything:
"Do whatever you Like - Provided it Does Not Hurt anyone!'
CAT17
RIGHT ON CAPTAIN!
CAT17
Hi to you and to Mouse, I agree with you both. t But there is always someone to spoil things. But ofcourse that is about him and not the rest of us. Keep replying to this great forum site, I certainly look forward to signing in regularly.
Anonymous
It is people like you who are not civilised enough to string a sentence together & have a decent opinion instead of that disgusting posting. I hope you are disbanned from the site.
Captain Slog
Hi Bellxchat,
GOOD thought! It may have been a typo of Don's doing! Even I make typo's that are too late to correct, and others do, too!
Again, another very good reason for me to offer Don and Apology for sounding off like I did, in defence of fellow Members upset with what appeared to be an idiot having fun. Sorry Don, if it was a Typo you did. Next time, simply get back in and TELL US!! It's like lighting a fuse to thing. Once its lit, there's no telliong how BIG the mess will be unless you put it out.
Maybe we, too, should think also, before reaching for the "Red Heads." MATCHES, People! MATCHES!! That is for those who don't know what Red Heads are. Do you still have them in Oz?
Bellxchat
Very true, Mouse. We can write something with one emotion, but the receiver(s) read with another emotion. Re-reading helps a lot!
Anonymous
Well said Hartmut!
Anonymous
I hope Don has been banned . this is exactly the sort of stupidity that needs to be deleted.
Scallywag
Maybe your right. But this is my point when you just type anything, anything can come out and things can be mis interpreted and mis represented. People should think and even read over the stuff they write before they post it. I know that I do and I don't even use social media. Things can easily be read the wrong way and thats how hatred and bitchiness starts on these sites.
Bellxchat
Maybe Don meant to say "Face Facts"?? lol
Bellxchat
Well said! Takes all types to make the world go around.....and ain't that the truth! Anonymous postings are just like nuisance phone calls and hate-mail: ignore it. In the "old days" we'd just hang up the phone or throw the letter in the rubbish. If you're not willing to put your (real) name, phone number, address, etc. on nasty postings, then they deserve the treatment they get....ignore 'em! We can have differing opinions - that's what opinion forums are all about, after all - but there's really no need for name-calling and abusive language. I've seen some shockers on some sites....don't really think that was what was intended when "freedom of speech" was enshrined.
Captain Slog
Hi Mouse,
Thank you again. The World needs people like you.
Looking back at what Don ACTUALLY said, my Photoreceptors are a bit munted, he said," What's wrong with the world? Face BLANK" I thought he was being a silly bugger and wrote, "What's wrong with the WORD? Face BLANK?"
IF that was what he really meant to ask, WHY did he add Face BLANK, and WHO was it aimed at?
To answer Don's question, if that was what he meant, Our World is a MESS! Look at all the unrest around the place. Crime in our own countries, wars overseas, unemployment, corruption everywhere, rampant slease (Queer marriages, religious perverts kiddy fiddling, etc.), cyber bullies, porn on line invading kids sites, greedy banks. . .
WHAT a bloody mess!!
At least we can find some Peace and company with our Friends here, and TRY and have decent discussions on various subjects of interest.
I hope things start getting better in the World soon. Something must be the catalyst to set it off, but WHAT? They say a good Fart breaks the ice at parties and get everyone laughing. We're going to need a very BIG Fart to get the World laughing. Thank goodness it can ONLY be done On Line or TV. Silly thing to say, but. . . its TRUE!
Here's proof!
When Mount Tongariro blew in early August, (It last blew up in 1887) nothing has happened since. Some dag said that it was likend to a Sleeping Giant rolling over in bed and Farting. That's ALL it was! A BIG BLOW and it was all over! Prrrrp! LOOK OUT FOR THE ROCKS!!! Ketetahi Hut got munted when the rocks hit it. What a lovely hut it was, too. What a pity!
Oh! And to further prove it was like a BIG FART, SULPHUR filled the air for a long time in the area, and probably still does! What do you expect when it was Sulphur Lagoon (The place on the side of the Mountain) that blew?
It may sound funny, but there IS some seriousness to this. The people who live over the hill from us (We're in Turangi, they're at Lake Rotoaira) live at the foot of the Mountain, and if the waters of Blue Lake are seeping into the Sulphur Lagoon area, there may be a Sulphurous Lahar pouring down the Mountain and into the settlement below. Nature at its best. . . and WORST!
Scallywag
Thanks Captain Slog, you sound like a good person too and I can understand how emotions can sometimes get the better of us. I think that Don might have gotten the message as I cannot see them having replied again to any other discussions.
Captain Slog
Supplimentary.
Very well put, Mouse! I TOTALLY respect what you said here. and you cetainly made it clear I was a bit harsh.
The order NOT to deploy the Seekers has been given, much to the relief of the Dark Eye Security Officer responsible. He HATES that job!
Also, thinking about what I said, that it may have been some kid who wrote in, trying to be "cheeky," I think his/her parents should be alerted and they can deal to him/her.
WE DO have our Universal Right to SAY whatever we like and DO whatever we like, but we have absolutely NO RIGHT to abuse it.
What I said in my response could have been a Test to see what others would say, and you DID (Thanks,m mouse!), or it could be to scare the fertilizer out of trouble makers. You could also probably read between the lines and tell that I, too, cannot tolerate bullies of any kind.
For the Record, in line with the atmosphere and tranquility of this Site and it's Members, I Wish to apologise for what I said about Don, but, I also hope that Don got the message. That bullies or idiots are NOT welcome here.
I would also like to ask Don to offer an apology for what he did, IF he is still reading this sites comments.
Thanks again, Mouse. You sound like a reaally decent person. Good on you!
Scallywag
No he shouldn't die but just realise that we are all individuals with our own opinions, that's what makes this world so great. People have lost the respect of others to be different and the way the are. We cannot all be the same or this world would be a boring place. Why can't we all be able to voice our opinions being write or wrong without being abused. Lighten up no one makes it out of this world alive.
You write though if this is a child they really should be taught some sort of lesson. They should be taught right from wrong and that there are always consequences for one's actions.
Anonymous
Well said mouse - these people cyber bullying are too gutless to call this to your face & are hiding behind an anonymous computer to vent their anger/frustration/lack of self-worth etc. People only behave this way when they have problems of their own which they haven't addressed.
Captain Slog
Suplimentary.
Don! Your are an absolute DICK'EAD!! DIE BASTARD DIE!!
IF you are an adult who sent this in, you deserve it.
IF you are a kid who bustedd into your parent's computer, I hope you get your butt kicked severely!!
IDOIT!!
Looking at what you said, you probably ARE a kid and you said it wrong. WHO CARES?? What you did was WRONG!! It is just NOT the right thing to do to ANYONE. I even feel guilty telling you this, but SOMEONE Has to. Even worse, SOMEONE has to organise the programming and Instructions for Seekers to go out and FIND people like you who cross the line, and when they find you, and they WILL, you had BETTER watch out! They carry out their instructions to the letter. Once deployed, there's NO CALL BACK. Mission accomplished!
BEWARE!!! Strange beeps and tiny lights in the night? Movements out of the corner of your eye? You could be being checked out for Target Identification. The Magic Word to say is "I'M SORRY!!" And you'd better SHOUT it out or its too late. You're done like a dinner!
Don't believe me? You won't even know! BUT, you're being watched! 24/7! I have friends in VERY HIGH places.
Captain Slog
Hi Folks,
I haven't heard from the CAFE for a few weeks, but I got this discussion in my Mail this morning. What really pisses me off is ALREADY we have an absolute FUCK WIT (Sorry Folks!!) who has nothing better to do than get into decent sites, where the members are decent people having good honest dicussions and sharing of advice, etc. and causes trouble and insults people for FUN!!! Don, whoever, WHAT ever it is, is just an absolute IDIOT and trouble maker. HE / IT is a perfect example of a cyber bully.
Before this idiot came along, we only had two others, and thankfully, as far as I know, they haven't been back. Some of you may remember the two Food Snob Idiots in the Food & Drinks Section who bullied a Member over his "Poor Man's Pizza" which everyone agreed, was a very good idea. I gave the snobs a serve, and everyone else gave them a serve, which probably explains why they haven't been back. either that, or they've been identified and Filtered.out.
Harmut is right! These bullies are nothing but damned filthy COWARDS who hide behind their screens getting their rocks off ABUSING poeple they don't even know, or care about.
DON'T take it people!! FIRE it back!! Its a pity we can't actually SHOOT the bastards, but we should!! We don't need people like that in our lives. They're just like evil dogs. Its a good thing I'm an "athiest" because I HATE DOG!!!
Take good care People! Protect yourself and your friends from ALL bullies, On Line and Off!
And now, back to the PEACEFUL realms of the Members of Cafe Study Chat.
Hartmut
No Don would probably not, because Bullies are usually cowards or simply do not have the abilities to reply, or follow a discussion in an intelligent way other than with malicious or foul words.
It is best to ignore them - and feel sorry for them.
Hartmut
Don, this is a civilised website.
So please leave your crude and BULLYING language elsewhere, or much better - nowhere!
Freedom of speech should not be missused, and that freedom is not a license for you to abuse other peoples feeling simply
because they are having a different opinion than you.
Scallywag
Really, this is exactly what I mean. Would you really call me this to my face????
greenanne_jane
I haven't been a victim, I do think it is difficult for kids these days, too many anonymous sights like Tumbler that they ask silly questions, and consequently receive silly answers. Turning off is always an answer. I dislike the fact that people think they can say what they like online, and with no concern for the effect their comments may have on others
jadow4
its only a problem if its really malicious and continued imo!
Scallywag
No I have never been cyber bullied, but I have never put myself in this position because I refuse to use social media. I think that these people that post these nasty things are gutless, I really wonder if they would have the guts to say these things to one's face. Probably not because when I was at school and people were nasty they would just cop a punch in the face. Not that violence is any better but it would make you think twice about what you were about to say. Oh how easy it is to hide behind a computer. Have enough guts to take responsibility on your actions. Sorry but I think very strongly on this issue as I know of a young person who took their life because of this.
coll1122
i completely agree with your reply, as my household is the same we refuse to use any sort of social media as its being abused and it should be sut down it was only the other month that was a young teenage boy in my town take his own life because the kids at school hassled him in the playground and online and i was disgusted that the school or other poarents took no action about it before someone got hurt. facebook ,twitter etc should all be shut down as ppl only whinge and air their dirty laundry on it for all to see and its WRONG!!!!!!
Anonymous
I think that these sites should have some form of moderator that can at least act if a person feels offended or violated by comments posted. If the moderator felt that the 'offender' has overstepped a line their account could be terminated and/or their true identification should be revealed to users and the authorities. It may make people think twice before posting.
peterv
I think this a very balanced approach. Social media has also done a lot of good too.
prettygirl
the social media should be taken off they stir shit and trouble and tell lies!
chickclaire
That is more than true about teenagers on social media, but I agree with Bigfoot too! There are some alternatives for reducing the impact of cyber bullying. I need to switch off from the computer or ignore it. I have read the GOOGLE advice on dealing with bullying emails and its a lot to take in.Obviously we need technological barriers against these cyber bullys
Bigfoot
Susie, I know that at 73 years old I am from the "Old school", however I honestly feel that a lot of this "Peer pressure" just means that our children have been in some cases mollycoddled or else they are just thin skinned. This doesn't mean all children are like this but surely it must be the majority ?? The children still have the opportunity to turn the computer off or just not go onto these social pages.
Hartmut
Indeed there should by a control , including on this site, where members or commentators should be removed if they attack, insult or abuse others with insulting vile language.
panica
I agree with bigfoot, block the person/people, deregister your account and MOST of all, don't just friend anyone who asks.
Poppy.
I agree completely with you Wendel. You and I have really hit the nail on the head.
wendel
Exactly, people get too wound up in their own worlds, toughen up and think about who and what you say to others using digital media and who you allow in.
jules 1
Yes, I agree with you, it isn't fair on the genuine people that use 'social media'. I don't know how they can STOP all of this cyber bullying, it's completly out of control. I feel there should be a 'body' of some authority that 'screens' what is put on the media, and if it is cyber bullying, then it should not be allowed to be put on, ... seems quite simple to me.! There are other sites that 'screen' what you write!
Nanadel
I do agree with the term, but certainly not the action. It IS only the gutless ones who stoop this low and drive already 'lacking in self esteem' young ones into taking their lives. There should be some way of punishing these low lives.
Poppy.
No I have never been bullied in Cyber Space. I use Facebook but I only have my family and friends as Facebook friends. I set my security settings so that only these people see what I have put out there. If you don't want everybody to see what you have put on Social Media, then don't put really personal things out there. I used to get teased (bullied)at school but I just ignored the situation and used the old saying about sticks and stones etc. I am now 70 years old and I still use this saying as my bench mark. I don't put myself into the situation to get bullied anyway. Maybe younger people should also do this as well. Don't yield to "Peer" pressure, you are your own person!!!!!!!!
Anonymous
Yes, Bigfoot, I agree there are alternatives & I am sure most adults would take your advice but when teenagers want to keep in touch with friends they are vulnerable & there is a lot of peer pressure to do so. Therefore they are naturally going to see what is being said in the social media.
Anonymous
I agree with Hartmut that the site should not be shut down but there should be someone im authority who can sift out any postings that are obviously cyber bullying. It has become so rife where people are being victimised with drastic consequences for the victim - depression, lack of self-worth & even suicide.
Anonymous
Bigfoot
I mostly agree with you mouse, but there can be alternatives ie turn the computer off, don't even look at the social page/s or just plain blasted well ignore those idiots who try to upset other people or as a last resort lobby our "Pollies" to bring in a law that could take the website off. If there was a law enacted then Facebook/Twitter and the others would start to clean their act up.
MUSCLES
i agree that occasionally social media is abused, but why spoil it for the people that genuinely use it to keep in touch with friends and family. we have friends in seattle washington state and keep in touch via facebook. also we have children and grand children in other states that we dont always get a chance to visit. it is good to be able to see photos of the children posted as well. i know there is always emails, but it is good to see other family comments on various things such as birthdays, anniversaries and unfortunately more recently a family pets passing. obviously there are pros and cons with social media, just have to make sure the abusers are banned, keep up the good comments though it is good to see what other people think, we are not all alike are we
Hartmut
I do not think social media sgould be taken off, what should be taken off, or banned, are those ignorant people who missue it by insulting others with disgusting language.
Scallywag
Yes it is being abused but there is many good to it too. It always only takes one person to stuff it up for everyone.
maggie
I agree with every word, social media has been abused and would be better if taken off