Posted by: bren
Posted: 18th Dec 2010
I think when we start living together both need to make changes to accommodate the other. .... and as long as they are 'functional' changes like putting the washing in the wash basket, putting the toilet seat down, and general co-operation in the running of the household, it is all in a good cause.
Essentially, those small changes are worth making and we do them willingly. But major changes like not watching the science fiction movies or not going for a run in the morning, are taking away individual choices of lifestyle and are more difficult to justify - that is part of makes me 'me'
Having said that, life is in a constant state of flux, and so too the way that affects relationships. To my mind an ideal partnership is one that is a fertile ground for individual growth and relationship growth, and should not be one of exerting restrictions and thwarting dreams, potential and ambitions. It should be one of fostering, supporting and sharing in the afterglow of the other's achievements. The relationship should have that synergy, where two together become greater than the sum of their parts.