Who is to blame
Posted by: aedna
27th Jul 2018 02:52pm
There are two scenarios. 1. A father puts money aside for his son. When the son is ready to leave home the father buys his son a home and car. Now he says you have a head start in life. Take care of your home and car and enjoy. The son moves in - trashes the home, smashes up the car and then tells the father. "It's your fault you didn't stop me."
The father says you are an adult I expect you to act wisely.
2. The father puts money aside and buys his son a house and car when he comes of age. He gives them to his son. However he constantly checks the home to see if it is clean and tidy and is continually correcting his son for not looking after the home properly. The car he keeps to drive his son where he needs to go.
The son is upset. How can I grow up if you keep treating me like a child. You need to let me be responsible for my home and car.
When we trash our planet how can we blame the Creator for what we have done. Why do we always have to blame someone else for our own stupidity? We even go as far as killing others and the blame the Creator as as excuse.
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Comments 7
super88
It’s a good thing to help out family. It’s not a good thing to take over someone’s else’s life ( even if it is family).
Better to offer help when a person is working to improve their lot than sit in judgement after everything goes in the wrong direction.
BILL
I don't agree with the father giving his son a home and a car. If he wanted to give him anything , it should be a block of land which cannot be destroyed and which would give the son a start in life. People ,even blood relatives should work for their assets and not be given anything like a car which could easily be destroyed.
Bazz
There's a third scenario that was overlooked. The Father encourages his son to develop his own interests & skills in order to land a descent job or better still, start his own business, etc. The son earns his money honestly, investing some each week & buys a car & eventually a house when the market conditions are right (not yet!). This way, the son knows to look after the things he has, because he has worked very hard to get them. We trash the planet because we were raised in an imperialist system. We have been fed on a daily diet of competition, division, hatred, violence & war. Is it any wonder? We don't value what we take for granted & are too busy stepping on each others heads just to get to the top - and for what? A wise man, now deceased, ran a very noble enterprise that cost him everything just to keep running. He had many loyal customers who always wanted to support him financially, but the man refused again & again. I asked him why. He told me that it's not how much money you have, but How you have earned it. Whilst it doesn't do anyone any good blaming anyone outside of ourselves, it is ridiculously unfair to lay all the blame on 1 individual when it is obvious that the system & the stupidly destructive mentality it embodies are equally to blame. This system was not devised by God, nor even by holy people, but by Satanists, if you research it thoroughly. If only the Church would realise this, they would pull all the strings they have inside of Governments at every level to expose what is really going on & whose agenda they are following & whom such a direction benefits. Certainly not 'we, the people'! In fact, if you research it thoroughly, the Churches, that is, All of the Churches, did have a solution & it worked spectacularly well ever since the Peace of Westphalia, which ended, all up, over 80 years of stupid religious wars that'd still be going today if not for this. The spirit behind it all was an earnest desire for each country to set all their foreign policies in the interests & for the benefit of the other. Instead of competing, we should be collaboratively building the latest high-tech public infrastructure, which massively boosts all economies - communications, roads, ports, high-speed rail. Exposure & Jail for the criminal private banking cartels, which must be replaced by Government - owned National Banking, investing in trade, agriculture, business & heavy industry.
Bigfoot
Scenario 1. The son is definitely to blame, he would obviously know that trashing the home and smashing the car was wrong. He lacks maturity in blaming his father.
Scenario 2. A nice dad giving his son the house BUT, he needs to let go of his son so that the son can grow and learn.
aedna
I am just talking about people in general. Look at the news. There's always someone we can blame. The response seems to be aggression or violence. We blame christians,news,Muslims our peer group or anybody but don't look at why we are doing this.self respect is very important. Humans have to stop blaming everyone else and work together in a sensible way to make this planet a better safer place
chickenman
people are responsible for their own actions. only the arrogant put the blame on others for their own bad behaviour.
aedna
Thanks. It worries me that we don't accept our faults, we blame others. It's hard when innocent young people kill themselves because someone wants to take out their self hatred out on others. Prejudice and bullying are all part of this I feel. Whole cities have been destroyed because they don't fit someone's criteria.