Relationships

Anonymous

Yes they defenately can sometimes it might be hard because you might have different opinions or religions but setting those aside you should be able to accept each other for who they are which is very important in a relationship

Nusia

It depends on what the total different interests are. If it's different interests in sport or movies, then yes. In any relationship, there is always give and take. You know what they say, 'Opposites Attract' and it's so true. When I met my husband 36 years ago, he was so shy and reserved. Me on the other hand was and still am a little 'over the top'. When I saw my husband, I instantly fell in love with him. Thus the saying, 'Love at first sight'. Although skeptical at first, I am a total believer of this feeling, because it happened to me. From that first meeting, I persuede him and only after a month, we began dating. A year to that date, we became engaged and two years after that, we married on the 8/12/1979. Our married life was always based on 'give and take' and of course consideration for one another. Always speak about your feelings, as communication is very important in a relationship, weather one is married or not. Always remember to treat your partner like you would like to be treated and all will fall into place. In 1981, we were blessed with a son and then with a daughter in 1985. Ours was a simple life and we brought up our children the same way. They knew from very early on, that they could not get everything they wanted, simply because we could not afford it. But our lives were full of love and family unity and often we would just pile into the car and would let the road lead us on another adventure in the country, stopping along the way at some historical place, or just to watch the planes take off and land at our states airport. Even as adults, they appreciate the simplest things in life and when I look back, know that as parents we did the best we could with what we had at the time. But I digress. As for our relationship, my husband loved most sports, yet I was not brought up on sports in my household. Our music tastes although similar in generation, yet I fell into the 60's (like my daughter calls it). And although my husband was a bass player, was more into rock, jazz and the like, so whilst in the car together, we would compromise on what we listened too and it always worked out for us. Even when he was in a band that he put together, I would sometimes go to their gigs, (depending where they were), but not always and that was fine. I also liked 'girly' type movies, which I would see with my best friend, or other family members. Whereas he liked more action packet type movies and although I didn't mind them too much, would go along with him, or if not, he would download them and watch them on his computer. We loved all the Crime type episodes on TV, which we would watch together and always try and work out 'who done it'. I am quite crafty and would potter around with that side of things, sometimes leaving the house to do that and he would go off and play golf maybe once a month if that. We both like staying home and being in each others company, even if on occasion, he would be on his computer, or strumming his guitar, or me in the lounge on my laptop or doing a crafty project with TV noises in the background. So what I am trying to tell you, is that you both need to have a communication in what you both would like to do and just compromise. It's really that simple! Don't make things too complicated, otherwise you'll end up getting frustrated with each other and that's when resentment sets in. I just wish I still had my husband around to continue our blissful marriage, but alas, he passed away at the age of 53 on the 24/1/12 after a 10 month battle with cancer and he left this earth for a better life, without pain and suffering to be in Heaven with the rest of his family. I hope my story has helped you in some way and whatever you do, Never Go To Bed Angry!!! Cheers Anna xox

greg60

The real question is, does love conquer all? Go for it, be happy, live long and prosper :)

senorita

Think carefully first. You can love someone dearly before marriage and think of him everyday before marriage. I can tell you that people with totally different interest can end up getting hurt. I have this experience and it's very hard to reach an agreement together. Unless you manage to reach one together. But firstly, is your partner a mummy's boy. Does he always listen to his mother? If he is on your side, then that's great. If not, then it will be hard as whatever his mother says, he will always trust his mother than you

TheMatchstickMan

We've been married 42 years now and not all of it has been beer and skittles. The main thing we found is to 'prefer' the other person in your relationship. If you put yourself first then your partner can soon develop the idea that they are not all that important. If you mutually adopt a resolution to 'Prefer one another' then you will find yourselves talking more about your preferences. Of course there will be fights! We've had our share of those over the years and also what we call"snits" for want of a better word, when one person takes umbrage and it has to be sorted. An important thing in these 'discussions' is to avoid using the accusative "YOU" . don't point out things you don't like about your partner. Its much better to try to 'come alongside' by creating a mood for discussion and then saying something like: "Y'know what, I don't like it when a person does XXX" this put the item on the table and yet it does not make an accusation that will put your partner on the defensive. On the subject of being defensive - try not to - in other words don't get your hackles up over small items. If there is something that one partner does not like the other one can say "OK I'll keep that in mind" . Its the little irritations that break up partnerships because they build up under pressure and result in an explosion. So try to clear the air every day so there's no Elephant in the corner. And don't forget to say "I Love you" in as many ways as you can think of - actions speak louder of course, but the spoken word is important. Even in the middle of a big row the simple words "I love you" with no Buts - can change everything. When you make your vows put meaning into them - purpose to carry out what you are attesting to. Bless you and have a happy life

fairfieldstation

I'd say Yes and No.

Think of it as head and heart. The heart can trick you into thinking you are "in love" - call it romance or, maybe, lust. But over time, the head takes over and reason starts to prevail.

In other words, head and heart have to be working together before you can say with any certainty whether a relationship is right for you.

How long have you been together? If you say you love the man dearly, on what is that based?

If it is just physical attraction, it will draw you together for a while, but that is not the be-all and end-all of ongoing relationships.

In my experience, as time goes by, physical attraction plays a less significant role, but the relationship is still sustained by many other things.

And observing the outcomes for others, a good number of relationships which looked strong in the beginning (largely because of sexual attraction) eventually fell apart when the couple drifted apart or one of them met another person.

I'd say if you share no interests at all, enjoy the relationship while it lasts, but don't enter into marriage until you have a clear sense that this is someone with whom you would happily spend the rest of your life.

chupachup

Sounds like you have one of those "Opposites Attract' relationships - you both have different interests or hobbies, but that's what makes you so different, and therefore unique and interesting to each other, because you complement each other.

Gaye

Sounds like you have one of those "Opposites Attract' relationships - you both have different interests or hobbies, but that's what makes you so different, and therefore unique and interesting to...

Thinking the same way thanks for the reassurance:-)

lele

compromise , pursue your seperate interests but also find something you can enjoy together