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  • sukhy
    sukhy
    Posted on:
    5th Dec 2011 09:14pm

    Last Post 27th Oct 2012
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    What is true friendship?

    Who or what is your favourite friend and what makes them your best friend...is it your partner..a girlfriend..male friend..work colleague..can your friends really be the family you get to choose..

  • sherri
    sherri
    Posted on:
    11th Dec 2011 02:16pm

    sherri says: Absolutely....( the family you get to choose)

    Thankyou for posting this wonderful topic...gives me a chance to comment on my wonderful sister-friend.

    We happen to share a birthday, though she is 5 years younger than me - and we did not discover this fact till we had been friends for a little time. And I don't know what it is that brought us together...we just 'recognized' each other. And though I might not see her for weeks, even months (years at one stage), we are able to pick the friendship up where from where we left it as if no time had passed at all.

    I have other friends of course - but this relationship is special.

  • sukhy
    sukhy
    Posted on:
    11th Dec 2011 05:21pm

    sherri says: Absolutely....( the family you get to choose)

    Thankyou for posting this wonderful topic...gives me a chance to comment on my wonderful sister-friend.

    We happen to share a...

    sukhy says: Oh that is so sweet and just the reason why I put this topic up for discussion.

    As far I am concerned there is no greater love affair than the one we have with our special friends..That friendship can mean more than any blood relation or friendship defined by time..

    It sounds like your sister friend is awesome..just the kind of friend you can rely on..trust..andsomeone you would want to share with..

    I like to think that our true friends are those we can share with on a regular but not defined quanity of time...that friend can be seen everyday,,spoeak with constantly during the day..and then not see again for an age but the time is no issue..a true friendship is one whic is seamless..effortless..balanced..where you can totally be urself and not be afraid to expose your weaknessess and be proud of your strengths..


  • dee
    dee
    Posted on:
    22nd Dec 2011 04:03pm

    sukhy says: Oh that is so sweet and just the reason why I put this topic up for discussion.

    As far I am concerned there is no greater love affair than the one we have with our special friends..That...

    dee says: I agree with you whole heartedly sukhy. That is exactly what a friend is and I am very lucky to have about 3 friends like that.

  • lanas
    lanas
    Posted on:
    27th Oct 2012 01:25pm

    sherri says: Absolutely....( the family you get to choose)

    Thankyou for posting this wonderful topic...gives me a chance to comment on my wonderful sister-friend.

    We happen to share a...

    lanas says: Hi sherri,I have a friend that I also didn't see for years at a time,and could pick up where we left off when meeting up again. We have a special connection where we both now don't ever want to be apart for long now

  • CAT17
    CAT17
    Posted on:
    19th Dec 2011 07:46pm

    CAT17 says: They say you can't choose your family (not that I would swap mine I love my sisters) but friends is a whole different kettle of fish! I have a couple of very close friends that I have known and loved for over 40 years! We all live in different states nowadays so keep in touch with phone calls, emails etc(used to be by snail mail once!). and now we never let too many days go by without contacting each other via sms or other.ways. We met in Port Moresby in the mid 60's where we worked and joined a squash club where we were members. (our husband's jobs took us to PNG in the first place .) It is the kind of friendship that we cry together if one of us has something "bad" happen and laugh when things are great. We all have grandchildren now, and though we have never met the little ones, we feel like they are part of our families too. We swap pics and ofcourse "brag" about the latest cute thing one of them has done.

    Thanks for posting this, it is lovely to share how I feel about my friends.

  • heatherch
    heatherch
    Posted on:
    21st Dec 2011 09:06pm

    heatherch says: My husband is my best friend, as he loves me unconditionaly, I can tell him anything & everything, we have a fabulous relationship

  • Jill
    Jill
    Posted on:
    22nd Dec 2011 09:48pm

    Jill says: I think they can be...a true friend is someone who knows to be in your life just enough but not too much...a true friend can not see you for a long time but its still okay and when you do catch up it's like you haven't been apart. This friend can be of the same sex or different. It can be a work colleague but sometimes that gets complicated. If it is your partner thats a bonus and great.

  • dragonlady
    dragonlady
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    23rd Dec 2011 02:01pm

    dragonlady says: I think a family member can be your best friend- mine is my daughter as we r on the same page level , we share all secrets and she is always there for me -im always there for her.

  • milly
    milly
    Posted on:
    29th Dec 2011 12:37am

    milly says: Hi I have a friend that Ive know for 20 years and she is the best.
    We met when I moved into the street were she was living with her family. She came down and welcomed me and my family to the street and with this found out her name is the same as mine, we both had three children at the time and had alot incommmon.
    She is the best because shes been there when I lost my parents, when I had marriage problems and when my first grandchild was born. I wouldnt be with out her. I hope some one else has such a good friend like me.

  • Robby
    Robby
    Posted on:
    17th Oct 2012 01:07am

    milly says: Hi I have a friend that Ive know for 20 years and she is the best.
    We met when I moved into the street were she was living with her family. She came down and welcomed me and my family to the...

    Robby says: Well! That is a truly friendship,

  • uruz
    uruz
    Posted on:
    31st Dec 2011 04:51am

    uruz says: I've had many friends but those who I call mate have been few and far between. This is my take on true friendship

    MATESHIP

    Did you ever have a good mate, one who was true?
    Yes, I guess you did, and I had one too.
    Always together, we were closer than brothers,
    Real good mates; we were attuned to each other.

    Down on your luck, he’d share his last quid.
    No questions asked; it was just what he did.
    In troubles and triumphs, he’d be by my side;
    Our mateship was something in which he took pride.

    Out in the scrub, no chance of resupply,
    So on your mate, you had to rely.
    Without hesitation he’d share his last smoke,
    Not even a quibble, he was that sort of bloke.

    I remember the time in the bush, I got real sick,
    But I knew that my mate, by me would stick.
    The weather closed in, no dust-off in sight;
    He tended my needs through the long dark night.

    He did his gun piquet then did mine too.
    When morning’s light came he made me a brew.
    Then he cleaned up our site without further ado,
    Just said, “Take it easy mate, I’ll see us through.”

    One day we were parted, sent different ways,
    Not of our choosing, just the game fate often plays.
    Typical of the Army, it did this sort of thing,
    Never thinking of the hardship or sorrow it can bring.

    I saw him much later, but the years had left their mark.
    It seemed to me, he was stumbling in the dark.
    I reached out to him to help pull him through,
    He just smiled, said “It’s ok mate, you’ve had your hell too.”

    He drank his beer and talked about fate.
    I wanted to help him ‘cos he was my mate.
    I guess life got too much, he gave up the race:
    Disappeared one day, not leaving a trace.

    To this day I miss him, my best mate,
    And sometimes I curse this thing called fate.
    It brought us together, then pulled us apart,
    And the sorrow I feel, still drags at my heart.

    Where is he now I often wonder,
    Somewhere in this big land down under.
    Wherever you are mate wherever you roam,
    As long as I live you’ve still got a home.

    ©Copyright July 6, 1998 by Lee O’Neill

    Author’s Note: Dedicated to mateship and those who shared it with me, especially Mick

  • Historian
    Historian
    Posted on:
    9th Feb 2012 06:19am

    Historian says: My wife, and our dogs, for close undemanding affection and understanding in both sad and joyous occasions. Our married togetherness for over fifty years may indicate to some that we have no imagination whatsoever but, the joy that we now possess in maturity has taught us tolerance and the true meaning of love. Our respect for one another has grown over the years and has enabled us to express an outgoing concern for humanity founded on the deeper understanding that human beings are rarely all bad, seldom totally selfish and capable of deep and lasting compassion.

  • Cake67
    Cake67
    Posted on:
    14th Feb 2012 01:12pm

    Cake67 says: Yes your friends can be the family you need, in most cases we share and reveal information to close friends rather than sharing with family and worrying about the possible backlash or critisism.

    A good friend should have the following traits - the most important would be TRUST as no relationship can truly survive without it, UNDERSTANDING - that you are unique in your own way, TOLERANCE - appreciates your differences and acknowledges your points of view.

    A truly great friend is the person who agrees to witness your life there are billions of people on this earth and it is great to know that there is someone who will say hey you will not go unnoticed or unloved I will witness your life and you mine

  • Cake67
    Cake67
    Posted on:
    14th Feb 2012 01:12pm

    Cake67 says: Yes your friends can be the family you need, in most cases we share and reveal information to close friends rather than sharing with family and worrying about the possible backlash or critisism.

    A good friend should have the following traits - the most important would be TRUST as no relationship can truly survive without it, UNDERSTANDING - that you are unique in your own way, TOLERANCE - appreciates your differences and acknowledges your points of view.

    A truly great friend is the person who agrees to witness your life there are billions of people on this earth and it is great to know that there is someone who will say hey you will not go unnoticed or unloved I will witness your life and you mine

  • Lara
    Lara
    Posted on:
    14th Feb 2012 04:12pm

    Lara says: Family I think are the most strong and important bond of friendship. As the saying goes blood is thicker than water and your family will always be there for you, well in my case anyway!

  • Hilary
    Hilary
    Posted on:
    19th Feb 2012 10:50pm

    Hilary says: My husband is my best friend. He accepts me and tries to make me feel good about myself. We talk, go through things together and are comfortable with each other.

  • bonnie
    bonnie
    Posted on:
    16th May 2012 01:49pm

    bonnie says: I would have to say my partner and my best friend of 27 years,they are on par

  • rongovegas
    rongovegas
    Posted on:
    17th May 2012 08:22pm

    rongovegas says: My bestie friends are the most wonderful people. We talk, we share, we take the milk and coffee when you know the other is struggling, there is no ground that we don't share which can be frustrating to our partners who sometimes think they are in a threesome! I am so lucky to have four best mates - two I have been friends with for half my life and the other two more recent but are definitely here to stay. My friends are definitely my chosen family.

  • julie6130
    julie6130
    Posted on:
    19th May 2012 02:50pm

    julie6130 says: a true friend is sameone that will drop every thing to be their for you and does'nt ask for any thing in return.i have know my best friend for 39 years and all though we live miles apart we are still there for each other.

  • omsairam
    omsairam
    Posted on:
    7th Jun 2012 05:16am

    omsairam says: A true friendship is that a man or girl who you believe will help you in bad time where no one of your family members aren't going to help you out.

    A friend is a type of person who doesn't have any desire from you and helps you out withoout any desire.

    In today's time it is very hard to find one but not impossible................

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