Why do people want their partners to change?
Posted by: Ralphy
29th Nov 2010 10:58am
Just curious..... we all know that feeling of when we first meet someon and we are very attracted to them. It is everything about them that makes them attractive to us. the way they talk, what they say, what they do, all the little things that makes them who they are.... we then date (hopefully) and as we spend more and more time together and become partners in the true sense of the word something happens which has me baffled.... our "partner" tries to change us maybe small ways sometimes bigger ways.. why is this? why are they trying to change us from who we are after all isn't that who they were attracted to in the first place? Seriously, if you want us to change into something else then perhaps you should have looked for the person with those traits to begin with but then maybe they still wouldn't be happy and would still try to change that person........ doesn't changing us from who we are stop us from being the person you were attracted to? I understand that people grow and that some things change for us but I say that they shouldn't take away those little things that make us well US.....
Shay-Dee
- 29th Nov 2010 06:08pm
You know the saying "love is blind"?.
When you are first attracted to someone, you only see the things that you like and you 'tune' out the things you don't.
When the honeymoon period is over, is usually when people start trying to change the little things that annoy them, like their partner leaving socks all over the floor instead of in the clothes basket.
But if you want to change the big things, like the people they see, and the hobbies they have, you should be seeking love somewhere else
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