Child Support & the non custodial parent.
Posted by: Ralphy
23rd Nov 2010 08:54am
Why is it that when paying child support that the "non custodial parent" has no rights? Our "GROSS" pay is what the % is taken from not the net. So regardless of any mortgages, car payments, loans etc we have or even how much we pay in tax, they take it from the GROSS.... yet they do not take into account if the Ex is re married, their partner earns loads of money, they don't have to account for the child support as to where it is going. My Ex has managed to buy a new car, go overseas on holidays and all that when i struggled to put food on the table for myself. Child support is meant to be one half of what it takes to maintain a child, the "custodial" parent should be made to show receipts for monies spent on the children at tax time to justify the amount of money being paid. Particularly when that person removes the children against a court order and there is nothing that can be done about it unless you take them to court. It is near on impossible to afford to pay for a lawyer to take them to court as that cost thousands which you don't have due to the amount of child support you pay. It is a vicious circle indeed. I know not all "custodial" ex's are like this but there needs to be stringent rules and assistance for non custodial parents when these type of things happen. After all they are quite happy to take the money, they should allow us to see our children. Perhaps the percentage should be asset based? on both non custodial and custodial. Why should the non custodial parent live in squallor, never having the opportunity to afford to own a house when the custodial parent can work, get child support and have a partner who earns lots of money can afford to buy what they want? What of the poor kids who miss out on seeing their other parent through choices made for them by your ex?
Ralphy
- 1st Dec 2010 12:52pm
Hi Frog, great name by the way.... did you ever see smokey and the bandit lol.... anyway thanks for the response. I agree whole heartedly. There needs to be more thought put into it, obviously they are not going to please everyone with whatever they decide but there really needs to be more fairness involved. For instance, a multi millionaire could be paying less that joe bloke on the street because he has his money tied up in assets but the poor bloke or female (payee) is renting, cant afford a holiday, owes for a car and they have to pay maximum amount. It sucks. I am not nor have I ever been a drop beat dad when it comes to paying of child support as I have been paying since 1989 and I once mistakenly worked out exactly how much I have paid over the years and it almost made me cry. I could have bought a house with that money.... such is life I guess. As far as the paying off a mortgage goes, my ex and I did have a house together but when she took off she left me with the mortgage as well as the big child support bill each fortnight ($550).. I wasn't able to meet my mortgage and it got worse and worse . I had the place sold and on settlement day it fell through because my ex said she wanted more. Mind you it was enough to pay off mortgage and us split some money, so the sale fell through, when I couldnt make the payments anymore it was sold at mortgagee auction for way less and I was now stuk with a huge bill and nowhere to live... my ex went bankrupt so that she didnt have to be involved... sucked to be at that time I can tell you... since that time I have not even been close to being able to own my own place. Least I have my health and sense of humour still lol..... she can never take them away from me......
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