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Children`s behaviour

I am appauled at the way children behave, not all I`ll grant you, but gosh I had a lovely friend and her children stay for a few days, man oh man, the boy who is about 7, wow if he could not get his own way, punched,kicked and swore at his mother for goodness sake if mine had of done that they would have been punished, but no this child`s grandmother, gives him what he wants to shut him up and says her daughter is too strict......I don`t know about other kids but I have seen kids behave like him.......Why are kids like this?

Last reply: 25th Apr 2014 / 45 replies / Post by 19chris51

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sherri

Posted by: sherri
Posted on: 30th Nov 2011

sherri says: the problem is when 'spanking' - or whatever is the ONLY thing that you do! ...or when spanking is the only thing that you can think of doing but WON'T do!

I will probably be labelled a 'do gooder' for saying this, but there ARE other ways of disciplining children.

Having said that, think that the problem is that we as a society have taken away a tool (that was misused by some) without giving alternatives, and so parents end up at the end of their tether and feeling powerless ...and so some 'lose it'! - and children end up being beaten by an angry parent where otherwise they might have received an 'unwise' but timely smack!

I agree with earlier comments - we DO need to allow parents to teach children respect and boundaries as a FIRST priority- by whatever means.... - and to give parents other methods of discipline to add to their tool-box as a second strategy.

BTW - my 3 children (now adults) were smacked (probably a total of 5 times all up). They knew that there was a possibility that I MIGHT! And yes, they were normal kids who did push those boundaries for all that they were worth...and I remember a 'conversation' with a derfiant child who tried the 'I have rights/ you are not allowed to hit me' line. I replied that we could deal with that AFTER we dealt with the behaviour, and should he decide to go ahead, then a smack would be the result. 'Funnily' enough he decided to back down on both that, and the 'whatever it was'!

AND there have also been times when my children (when very young) were put down for a nap because -I- needed a break, and one memorable occasion when I went for a walk rather than discipline because I was angry, and was likely to lose it!

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