Posted by: sherri
Posted on: 30th Nov 2011
the problem is when 'spanking' - or whatever is the ONLY thing that you do! ...or when spanking is the only thing that you can think of doing but WON'T do!
I will probably be labelled a 'do gooder' for saying this, but there ARE other ways of disciplining children.
Having said that, think that the problem is that we as a society have taken away a tool (that was misused by some) without giving alternatives, and so parents end up at the end of their tether and feeling powerless ...and so some 'lose it'! - and children end up being beaten by an angry parent where otherwise they might have received an 'unwise' but timely smack!
I agree with earlier comments - we DO need to allow parents to teach children respect and boundaries as a FIRST priority- by whatever means.... - and to give parents other methods of discipline to add to their tool-box as a second strategy.
BTW - my 3 children (now adults) were smacked (probably a total of 5 times all up). They knew that there was a possibility that I MIGHT! And yes, they were normal kids who did push those boundaries for all that they were worth...and I remember a 'conversation' with a derfiant child who tried the 'I have rights/ you are not allowed to hit me' line. I replied that we could deal with that AFTER we dealt with the behaviour, and should he decide to go ahead, then a smack would be the result. 'Funnily' enough he decided to back down on both that, and the 'whatever it was'!
AND there have also been times when my children (when very young) were put down for a nap because -I- needed a break, and one memorable occasion when I went for a walk rather than discipline because I was angry, and was likely to lose it!