Dinner Time
Posted by: Anonymous
31st May 2007 03:05pm
Many of us enjoy going out for dinner, or to a friends house for a bbq, but what happens when it comes time to eat and drink? For example, in the case of a bbq, should you only eat what you brought or the equivalent (i.e don't eat the steak if you only brought sausages) or because its a group situation should you feel free to help yourself to whatever is on offer?
Also if you are eating out with a group, should you split the bill evenly amongst the group, regardless of whether you've ordered the most or least expensive thing on the menu, or should everyone pay for what they ordered?
Anonymous
- 9th Jun 2007 12:13pm
I do not expect my family and friends bring anything to my BBQ's. However I am lucky to have wonderful people who bring things with out being asked. They do the same for us and i am happy to bring things in return even though it is never expected. Unfortunately there is always a spoilt sport in every group and unluckily for us it is close family. They always insist on phoning in a "list" of specific items to every one coming or order up big when we go out, so others end up coughing extra in thier bills. Our solution to this is not to go or to not invite them. But unfortunately this causes fights and the old "why were't we invited?!!" When we tell them why it causes another fight. They always invite invite as people as possible to, so that if everyone brings food and drinks they wont have to provide anything, and of course more people = more presents! There is also the case of "favours". My hubby works in the building indusrty and has no problem helping family and friends when they need it. However these same people are majorly taking advatage of his help. This time round he has said I can't help you anymore ( he did give them a reason but too lenghty to go into here) and this caused another fight. We love our family and love spending time with them and want them to be happy, but we will not be taken advantage of. We have tried explaining the situation to them but it is not well received and I dont feel that cutting them off is the solution (nor do i want to). I honestly do love them and when they put thier selfishness aside they are really great to hang out with and we end up having a ball.
Many of you probably have a similar thing where the whole BBQ thing is just the tip of the ice berg. How did you handle it? Got any tips, especially for dealing with family?
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