Pregnancy & Parenting

grandparents raising grandchildren

Pregnancy & Parenting

Posted by: Lilibet

6th Nov 2011 11:34am

Today many older Australians are finding themselves in the unenviable position of having to care for and raise their grandchildren, due to family trauma or unstable and at risk lives the kids would have if they stayed with their irresponsible/missing parent. With little or no support available, these loving 'oldies' are forced to use their retirement funds and time and to revisit parenting in a far more demanding enivromentthan that in which they raised their own children.

Donz
  • 8th Dec 2011 03:07pm

Thanks for the reply Lil, we are still in the baby steps of this process tho as we have shared custody with the mother we have the baby Fri-tues and mum Tues evening to Fri morning, I am struggling with communication with her as I don't trust a thing she says, also we buy him cloths and then we never see them again it is frustrating so now we have decided not to give him our cloths and keep them here for when he comes and we put him back in the cloths that he arrives in it is a sad thing to do and you are right the additional costs, every time he comes back everything is so grubby I feel so sorry for him but when he arrives here he is given so much love and truly treated like a king, his mother tends to bend rules when she wants but if my son does anything example "the baby sleeps in so doesn't go to creche (cold rainy day) we keep him at home as he will be returned to her that evening, when we meet her she asks "what happened" we tell her and then she tells us that he needs to be woken up and its not good enough" not that she delivered the baby to our house the Friday before in the morning "NO CRECHE" because she doesn't feel well and can;t look after him, if the law allowed I would smack her for being naughty haha" that is the frustration she dictates to us not talk to us and if she wants to tell us anything she texts it "like he needs to be toilet trained she is starting to put him in undies" thats all good and well but we sent her out 6pairs of undies 3weeks ago none of which came back and nothing then to say we toilet train although we had already started doing that, I better not go on and burn your ears off but many many thanks for the reply.


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