Society & Culture

Is There Really Only One Person For You?

Society & Culture

Posted by: chrissyGirl

5th Feb 2011 08:35am

If so, what happens if you've already had your chance with him/her?
do you move on? do you let them no?.. what if your still close friends, in other relationships but no you both have feelings for each other?

Comments 14

lane
  • 22nd Jun 2012 12:09pm

There's only one man for me. Met him when I was 16, married him when I was 18 and have not been married 38 years. It only gets better. In the early days we argued a lot as we got to know each other, then you grow together and start to like the same things, then you know what the other person would say and you develop a sense of relaxation and comfort. I believe we will be together forever.

Lisa-Jo
  • 11th Oct 2011 01:03pm

It doesn't matter where people grow up or move through no choice of their own they still meet aand fall in love with someone so I think there must be more than just one person for each of us.

gk
  • 1st Jul 2012 11:47am
It doesn't matter where people grow up or move through no choice of their own they still meet aand fall in love with someone so I think there must be more than just one person for each of us.

I prefer to live as "there is only one person for me while we are in a committed relationship." All women are beautiful, and attractive; in their own individual ways. I have"fallen in love" with women of different nationalities; become engaged to two; married two (legitimately); had one child within each marriage. Until aged mid-twenties, I really was not sufficiently matured to sustain a very long-term relationship. I always believed that parenting was best reserved for persons who had first discovered / come to terms with themselves; their quirks and frailties. My son was born when I was 37 years of age, and he benefits from having parents who really are "grown ups." It also helps to have a stable, established relationship, a career, some degree of financial stability: before adding children to the equation. Coping with sleep deprivation for the first two years is often a drain on the best adult relationships, so I strongly recommend 'family planning.' I advocate genetic screening / amnioscentesis at week 12-13 of pregnancy; because there is no logical reason to carry an early-disadvantaged fetus to term. There are very real financial and resource constraints involved with bringing up and supporting lesser-abled citizens. If it is a sentimental / religious luxury you can afford; by all means give that growing clump of human cells a chance at independent life, but do not expect any public funds to indulge your private hopes and dreams ! Take care out there ! ! !

Anonymous
  • 3rd Aug 2011 08:22am

I believe there is only ever one person for us all, our true soul mate and it may not be the most obvious person in your world. Did I have my soul mate? Yes I did, but it was not meant to be, but we are still as close as ever despite being on a different path to each other.

cooki
  • 6th Jun 2011 11:18am

hmm I've often wonder thaat is there really just one person for you/me for some there is foranothers it has and was but the chance has gone by for them i have friends that were made for each other but unfortunely couldn't live to together without fighting all time so decided to part.
The silly thing about it is that they've remained friends despite the fact they now have new partners so I guess it does and it doesn't work to some degree

stretch
  • 1st Jun 2011 02:03pm

it depends was the breakup your choice or the law
did some one steal the heart of another
or
did the fights just keep on adding up
think with the brain where matters of the heart come to mind

lamyaa
  • 24th May 2011 11:19pm

If someone have feeling for someone why not tell them!!! we only live once so, make the best of it. :)

lamyaa
  • 24th May 2011 11:15pm

I personally don't think there's one person for me.....if someone have feeling for someone why not tell them!!! we only live once so, make the best of it. :)

Shay-Dee
  • 22nd Feb 2011 10:29pm

I think it varies from person to person, but if you are no longer compatible then YES, move on.

It's not fair on yourself OR the other person if you stay together just for the sake of companionship :)

You can still have feelings for someone after you seperate, its hard not to when you have shared such intimate special moments. But you have to remember that whatever made you seperate in the first place, has not changed, so that will still be an issue.

Ollie
  • 22nd Feb 2011 03:05pm

Nup! There is NOT a one and only! Some will be more/less suitable, more/less rewarding, deeper/shallower perhaps. I don't think any relationship is perfect, but you cannot compare. Every relationship we have is unique.... because people are different.
When you move on from a relationship, I believe you can still care about that person, but not as deep or intimate...maybe like a member of the family, Feelings, might be about loyalty, habit, guilt, regret and caring. What feelings? Sexual ? You can't act on all the feelings you have for others.....
I care that my ex is ok because he is essentially a good man and the father of my children, and we had some good times and grew up a lot together.
I value that was part of who we are today, much wiser, learning perhaps from mistakes made with him.
If you think there is a one and only, I think you may never find it. if he was 'it' you'd still be together.
I think life is about making the best of what is possible/available/offered !!!

Anonymous
  • 19th Feb 2011 12:27pm

I believe that their is only one person for you. Only reason why is because I had a man for 24 years who passed last year and I never ever wanted for anything more. If you've already had your chance and missed it then yeah you move on and spare the heartache if not for yourself and the person involved but also for the partners and stay away from each other. Staying in touch will only confuse the matter.

Anonymous
  • 19th Feb 2011 12:13pm

I believe that their is only one person for you. Only reason why is because I had a man for 24 years who passed last year and I never ever wanted for anything more. If you've already had your chance and missed it then yeah you move on and spare the heartache if not for yourself and the person involved but also for the partners and stay away from each other. Staying in touch will only confuse the matter.

montypython
  • 18th Feb 2011 05:07pm

If you've still got feelings for each other, I don't know why you would have broken up in the first place.

I don't know if there is only one person for each of us, but I do believe that it's possible to find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, and to make that happen.

Anonymous
  • 23rd May 2011 11:06am
If you've still got feelings for each other, I don't know why you would have broken up in the first place.

I don't know if there is only one person for each of us, but I do believe that...

Wow, Took the words right out of my mouth..

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