a little more thread to the dress please

frilly

I had a shock a day or so ago. One of my granddaughters who has gone over to the Public School from a Private School for her own idea, seeking a wider choice of subjects in yrs 11& 12. She told me that one of her young teachers is going out as boyfriend and girlfriend with a year 12 girl.
She was shocked that everyone seemed to know about it even the school but she had heard they were trying to keep it quiet as the girl as only part of the year left before she finishes school.
Apparently it would mean the teacher lose his job and the girl she thought may be expelled. I do not know the rules and how they would be applied but it is appalling to think this can happen in a school.
What are others thoughts on it?

Anonymous

i totally agree, I have a 13 year old and I refuse to allow her to wear skirts that look like they should be a belt, or the low cut tops or the skimpy bikinis. Children should be protected and not have their young minds twisted by advertising and tv into believing minimal is better.

frilly

I know everyone is saying these girls are having a terribly hard time with both parents working. I grew up with both parents workings I was a real Keyhole kid. I had two brothers younger than me and very close in age.
I was supposed to keep them out of trouble the house clean and tidy as both parents worked shift work.I managed to grow up with enough respect for myself that I dressed decently. That was not easy as all my clothes were secondhand. I was no angel, I wanted attention from boys but although I was not told anything about the "birds and bees" it somehow meant something to me to keep myself looking as respectable as possible.
We had no hot water either but we were all clean and had our hair washed, our parents as tired as they where kept a pretty strict eye on us but as they were working so much it was hard.
Punishment was very strict, even I knew if I went too far I could have the strap on my bottom Everyone throws their hands up in horror but it did not happen at all often, the threat was enough. Perhaps that is what is wrong with many of the kids, they know there is no real discipline
What will happen to the kids that burnt down that school today, will anything really severe happen to them. Where were their parents why did they not know they were not at home?
Young girls having babies and not being married. I believe everyone can have one accident but 2 and 3 or more. Maybe even to different fathers. Where is their respect in themselves. I do not believe we should make these young girls exactly feel ashamed but it should be pointed out to them that baby after baby being unmarried is not a very respectable situation. We have OK ed this now so you see these young children in many cases themselves trapped from a decent education for them selves and their children because society has said it is OK to live like that.
frilly

Anonymous

im only 18 but i do think that parents are letting there kids dress more trampy as the days go by. i know that im not going to let my kids dress that way!! id prefer my kids to have class not ass!!!

shapaka

I am always astounded at girls as young as maybe 12, parading around shopping malls with super short clothing revealing way too much. i cannot understand how parents can allow their kids to walk out the door this way...sometimes with mum and dad which is even more unbelievable!! We live in a wayward world today of lots of sick individuals that prey on these sort of things. Whe should educate our kids more on appropiate clothes to wear in public. Lets go back in time a bit with fashion and get some designers out there that are willing to design pretty girl clothing that are still up to date, youthful but with maybe more, less revealing material that does not send out the wrong message...and the same goes out to adult clothing. I mean c'mon,we seem to be paying more for clothing these days with less material, where is the logic there!!

riaria0203

I definetly agree that young girls these days are wearing clothes with lesser and lesser threads! Blame the media!!! Some would counter argue that it's all about self confidence and being comfortable with your body...but this shouldn't be the main concern for a teenage girl? At school, shorter skirts are somewhat indirectly related to popularity status, the girl with the skirt at knee length is deemed to be less popular and the odd one of the group.

Chrissywin

I agree, however, modesty is taught at home, from a young age. They are always going to flog the magazines image of what a young girl should wear. I have four daughters, and taught my daughters modesty from a young age, and they seem to have got the message. Monitoring what they are exposed to at a young age is also a way of going. These days kids are allowed to watch and look at what ever they want, and most stuff on TV is purely for adults. So it has a lot to do with what they are being taught or exposed to at a young age.

sassygirl

I agree a little too much flesh is on display in the latest fashions. I can't see how girls and women think they are so great. I would'nt wear what's on display most of the time and I regard myself as a reasonable follower of fashion

chewybrownies

Every day young girls are bombarded to look like grownups from the media. They are told to dress their age, but they are conflicted with advice like 'grow up' and are given much more responsibility than any parent had in their childhood.

Most of the girls we see who dress this way have had much harder lives than we had. I know there is no substitute for the close upbringing we had with our parents alongside us, not struggling to make ends meet, or thinking that if we provide enough money, then our family will be okay. This is where it all stems from. The lack of respect for themselves comes from lack of attention at home. No wonder they all dress inappropriately, if their role models aren't there to tell them otherwise and they only have their friends to say what's okay and what's not.

And to all the nay-sayers saying that their childhood was much harder, I beg to differ. I grew up in the country, with my dad working hard, my mum was raising us day to day and we only got to see him at night. I know I hardly had a care in the world. Nowadays, these same teenagers are looking after their siblings while their parents are at work, cooking dinner for the family, getting siblings ready and off to school while some parents sleep off hangovers. They're holding part time jobs to 'contribute to the family' - because apparently just being a part of the family isn't contribution enough.

Lay off them, they're only rebelling (just as toddlers did). They're only trying to find out who they are, get a little bit of attention, and it's up to the parents to instill the right principles in their children. If you see the child dressing like that, look directly at the parent and that's where the fault lies. They're the ones who buy the clothes in the first place.

stretch

Every day young girls are bombarded to look like grownups from the media. They are told to dress their age, but they are conflicted with advice like 'grow up' and are given much more responsibility...

if they would look at the definition of indecent exposure the 13 and 14 year old females are pretty close to it
and the bookks they read are showing models trying to become anorexic
the clothes from yesterday are showing style and grase
it would be great to see some of the kids show a little style instead of the bare bottem and breast
this to me reflects on the parents to a great deal as well how little self respect the children have not just for them selves but the family name

frilly

I totally agree with all you are saying especially the part the families play.
It would be a marvellous thing if the magazines these girls read started introducing a more modest style of dress.
The girls pick these ideas of dress up from magazines and TV shows. Perhaps letters from interested family members to the TV Channels and the magazines would help get the message through to these girls
It is incredible that so much flesh is on display. Schools could help too. There should be rules on uniform, length of skirts & dresses.. I have 5 granddaughters. Their parents struggled to put them through private Schools. They worked 2 jobs to do it but the uniforms are measured and had to be fixed length from the floor. It has helped I think All 5 hate seeing "muffin tops" as they call them. They are not saints by any means but do dress decently
Please do not make this a cry against private schools it is just what happened in our families

stretch

I totally agree with all you are saying especially the part the families play.
It would be a marvellous thing if the magazines these girls read started introducing a more modest style of...

it would be freat for some of the teens to see a few of the older rules be used aspecially in schools
it might help with the teachers teaching a few morals from the older generation
dress as you want to be treated was some thing a few of my friends have learnt from an older teacher
even a few of the school teachers could use an extra few inches instead of showing of the natural shape of the body
it is a shame that all schools aspecially the ones at the coast wont place dress regulations on the length of a girls dress
have tried a few of the parents in a questioning manner but quite a lot of them just state it is the new age
what goes next the lat form of respect we show manners in ediquite

stretch

I totally agree with all you are saying especially the part the families play.
It would be a marvellous thing if the magazines these girls read started introducing a more modest style of...

in public schools they teach personal presentation as well manners the way we present our self is the way we wish to be treated
in public sectors we are lucky to see a math teacher not being doubled for by a police officer and as for manners it is not payed for by the government

chrissyGirl

The clothes girls wear these days have less fabric, become much shorter and skimpier. that would be fine, but seeing these kind of clothing on 13-14yr old girls is appauling. how the parents let them out of the house like that i do not no.
even school uniforms have become more about fashion, with girls skirts barely covering anything and the tops un-buttoned to show there 14yr old not quite developed breasts in a push up bra.
somebody needs to sort this out!!!

stretch

The clothes girls wear these days have less fabric, become much shorter and skimpier. that would be fine, but seeing these kind of clothing on 13-14yr old girls is appauling. how the parents let...

so long as parents dont mind the expression of call girl looka like it is fine
but
if my daughters kids were to do this they may find a large problem with pocket money for starters
and groundings work well

Wen

They don't realise the message they are sending out when they dress this way. Unfortunately the language and the behaviour is the same as the attire.

stretch

i agree. i'm 21 years old and it seems quite a lot of females my age and younger have created the idea of "just because i'm dressed this way doesn't make me a SL*T. " etc etc but once again, i...

trouble is the younger femles follow society in the sence of the dress length dont get me wrong i am a mere male at the best of times but some of the kids need to learn not to bend at the knees
no idea as to what the clothes are saying about the wearer but the mere male looks and his mind starts to wonder where the youth of today dress is really coming from

stretch

i agree. i'm 21 years old and it seems quite a lot of females my age and younger have created the idea of "just because i'm dressed this way doesn't make me a SL*T. " etc etc but once again, i...

trouble is the younger femles follow society in the sence of the dress length dont get me wrong i am a mere male at the best of times but some of the kids need to learn not to bend at the knees
no idea as to what the clothes are saying about the wearer but the mere male looks and his mind starts to wonder where the youth of today dress is really coming from

poisonedperfect

when my grandmother was younger education included morals and this would have been reinforced at home
even the clothes they dressed in deplicts a whole new image compared to that of today...

i agree. i'm 21 years old and it seems quite a lot of females my age and younger have created the idea of "just because i'm dressed this way doesn't make me a SL*T. " etc etc but once again, i agree. they don't realize at the end of the day people can be saying "as long as YOU know you're not a SL*T..." until the cows come home... everyone will still think you're one, believe you're one from the implication from the clothing choices and thus.. you are what society thinks of you.

stretch

Can't expect much more from a young one if the right education and morals are not taught. Parents are the primary educators and are getting a bit lazy with that now.

when my grandmother was younger education included morals and this would have been reinforced at home
even the clothes they dressed in deplicts a whole new image compared to that of today
it is as if to remove your clothes in public is more important than personal morals
and this includes self respect

Wen

very true and it reflects on the females of the families
and in a small country town the expression used to be
if the mother is one the daughter is one

Can't expect much more from a young one if the right education and morals are not taught. Parents are the primary educators and are getting a bit lazy with that now.

stretch

They don't realise the message they are sending out when they dress this way. Unfortunately the language and the behaviour is the same as the attire.

very true and it reflects on the females of the families
and in a small country town the expression used to be
if the mother is one the daughter is one