How would you deal with difficult people living under the same roof?
Posted by: Sammm2
31st Jan 2017 04:27pm
I'm 20; F; uni student. I'm currently living with my extended family. However, things don't go as planned. My aunt is unhappy for allowing me to stay with them without paying rental. One day, she told me to move out and I thought of it as a good idea. Since I'm still not financially independent, I told my parents exactly what happened but my aunt ended up putting the blame on me. She told everyone that I lied and that I was the one who wanted to move out. I didn't have evidence to prove her wrong but no one could understand how dissapointed I was. Things didn't stop there. She treated me very badly and even call me names/ say untrue nasty things about me when my uncle is not around. Besides, she goes into my bedroom everyday when I'm at uni. She gets jealous of my results and my awards. She even tore some pages from my textbook. The thing is that I couldn't do anything to stop her from lying for her benefit and for blaming me fpr the things I never did. The only thing I can do is to spend as less time as possible at home but things are not easy when my uncle is not around. I'm always patient but I feel like I might explode sometimes. I need some advice pls... :(
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nopecs2016
What about asking your parents to give you money to rent a room?
As you get "results and awards", I reckon that you have at least made your parents trust you. And for sure, you can tell them in a best way (calm way) about what happened. The thing is, you have to move out from that house. I know how it feels when we are dependent on people and they don't desire us... It's totally frustrating. You'd better leave that house for good and find new place...
Skylark
Is she resentfull of the 'rent free' side of things? Perhaps she sees you as a 'burden' on her and your uncle? Perhaps paying some rent, or contributing to cooking/cleaning/etc would help, if you're not doing that already.
bossn
Damn, sucks for you man. Sounds like you're having one of those cases of bad room mates/neighbours. I'll be honest with you man. Since this is your uncles partner, she ain't leaving anytime soon unless he decides to leave her and I'm guessing talking it over with your uncle first and then all of you's is out of the question. Best if you leave man because sometimes it just ain't worth it and things can get worst from there. I've had a similiar situation happen to me before where my neighbour would literally start screaming racial slurs everyday, pump music, throw rubbish onto my lawn, the annoying stuff that will get his ass kicked when I move but honestly. I took the latter step and just moved out and move on and let him live the sad life that he lives at the moment and you should do the same, she seems like shes unemployed thus why she keeps annoying you. Get out before it drains your life and she takes you down to her level.