Do you show yourself
Posted by: Freedomy
7th Oct 2014 03:43pm
When first entering into a relationship, do you go all the way to reveal who you are or do you only want to show the good bits. When it comes to a partner at the start do you ignore all those traits that you don't find at all entertaining because you feel all loved up, or do you knock them on the head and discuss them immediately or do you even notice them?
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mausy
Just always be yourself be up front and honest, tell it like it is, if it's meant to be it will be, and always expect the same in return, if you even suspect dishonesty or you feel mistrust, move on.. Try not to let the little things bother you...if you really like most things about a person, is that little issue really going to effect your life..!!
Freedomy
Hey Mausy,
Yes nice to chat with you too. I too am single, I got the idea after browsing some of these questions, they sprout up good ideas.
I have one ex in mind when I wrote this, because I remember smiling and laughing at his stupidity and then several months down the track being very bored of this (and it must have shown in my attitude or on my face) and to his dismay he was confused that he could not do the same thing and get the same response. I wondered then, did I really enjoy that part of him at the beginning or was it that I was so into him that I just skated over this trait. It is not like lying but because you are in that loved up state, maybe it is that you don't want to stop that loved up feeling.
I love the chats that get serious, but there is a time and place for them and definitely not on alcohol. Hope to hear your response. I have a few more questions I will throw out there in the next couple of days.
mausy
That's funny...Not really a good idea, I have been single for a really long time, and very happy about it, all my friends are in relationships, I get to see and hear about all the ups and downs, and for some reason, they ask me for advice,.. the happy single one,.. and yes all those cute little traits that were funny in the beginning soon become quite annoying....everyone has to decide for themselves if they can tolerate it or talk about it... That's where the fun begins,...by the way..nice to meet you....
Freedomy
Hey Mausy,
Thanks for your reply. I agree with you about honesty and for me that is a just a given. But when you are in the state of all loved up, do you just breeze over those annoying traits. I have heard and my friends have also quoted, "you didnt mind that when you first met me". Its like the things that they did at the beginning of the relationship were funny or presumed funny, but now that the rabbit stage is over and the relationship is in top gear those things now are the very ones that raise an eyebrow if not more.
But you are so right about not sweating the small stuff, I think i will come to you with my relationship issues in the future.