Society & Culture

Any ideas?

Society & Culture

Posted by: 888shelley

30th Jan 2013 04:30pm

Have posted before about my horrid neighbour, now he has teamed up with the neighbour on the other side of us. They will be referred to as 1 and 2...1 seems to be a little sheepish over the destruction of our garden in 2011. Now 2 seems to have mental problems, I should explain that we have created a lovely tropical garden on our rented property(rented here for 13 years) and we have lovely birds(magpies, currawongs,parrots a blue crane, mickey birds) who inhabit our trees or visit daily, this is where the problem lies...2 hates birds! they poo on his house and fence! So far he has hosed them ( and me!), abused me, trespassed cutting back a rare tree and told his contractor to keep on cutting as "she doesn't own the place so it's not her tree anyway", he has also installed plastic owls looking into our yard (the birds aren't stupid, they know it's plastic!!)which he thinks will frighten the birds away. I have taken photos of the owls over the fence.
We know he has been listening to our conversation in OUR backyard, which by the way we love to spend time in .
Sooo.....any ideas on how we can get our privacy and enjoyment of our yard back?


Comments 6

Wattobird
  • 4th Mar 2014 09:33pm

There's a few things you could do:
- Scare away the birds using particular farming techniques; this will keep your neighbor happy, but not you.
- Talk to him about some sort of compromise or ask your landlord to step in; neither of you may end up happy, but the fighting* should stop.
- Scare the crap out of him, and learn to stop caring about his (and possibly a few others) opinions.

Try to be the adult. The last suggestion is a last resort.

888shelley
  • 11th Jul 2013 06:17am

Have to report that one neighbour we never see any more, I think he overheard me telling one of my friends that he would be charged with tresspass next time he tried cutting our trees. the other one realises that he was out of line in coming into our property while we were away, he and some other person cut trees all over our yard not just the fence line, two trees 3 ft inside our property ended up as stumps after he'd finished (one had previously been 25ft high) most of my garden had been in pots some quite large and I had spent time re potting about 20 of them.....these were mostly thrown away by him and his mate as the got broken when he dropped the tree on them. what upset me most was that I had 3 cuttings of a plant from my father's coffin which had taken and were for me and my 2 children but were among the missing pots.He lied to the police and said he didnt see any pots, but i had taken photos before we left.Our landlord loves our garden as it has restored to when his ma in law lived here
Anyway it's pretty well sorted now, we just ignore them

Sonnie
  • 10th Jul 2013 05:27pm

I agree. You have to be the bigger person and not show it upsets you. However, when they do cross the line, by cutting down your trees, then I feel you must look to the law as to what can be done. Also, as it is a rental property it may help to get in writing from your landlord a statement of permission to plant your garden. Hope this helps!

Anonymous
  • 7th Jul 2013 06:38am

Anonymous
  • 6th Apr 2013 03:40pm

Definetly be the adult, there has to be a way to get through to them you just have to find it, if not you'll have to get the authorities involved to mediate some type of civil agreement. Have you tried being really happy, lovey, hippy type spread the love person with them, always smile like nothing bothers you? They may be feeding of the fact their getting a reaction from you, they are enjoying watching you react to their immaturity and stupidity, try reacting in the opposite way, if they think your not bothered they may get bored, you definetly dont want to play tit for tat, go out of your way find them a hobby or some type of social gathering they can get enjoyment out of to fill their day. Neighbours are happy your happy.

888shelley
  • 7th Apr 2013 06:54am

thanks for that, they really had me rattled! i am normally the most peaceful person, but when i see wanton destruction of nature it gets me mad. i consulted my real estate agent and she advised me that if it ever happened again he would be charged with trespass. one tree he hacked at is nearly falling over, and i will probably have to cut it back and give it a chance to re grow. i basically ignored these people and now i never see them. problem was partly because both these people on either side own their homes, we have been referred to as 'rental scumbags' etc. we have lived here since before one house was built and take excellent care of this house, in fact better than our landlord who has not even provided a tin of paint, nada, zip for the maintenance , let alone fix chipboard cupboards (rotting), venetian blinds (35 years old, rotting tapes) etc. he ignores letters from the agent reporting problems. any hoo we still love this old house!

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