Health & Fitness

Does a mother has the right to authorise a Hysterectomy on her physical disabled daughter?

Health & Fitness

Posted by: cha1327

7th Nov 2011 07:11pm

Is it allowed to authorise a Hysterectomy on your physical disabled daughter just, because you're afraid that your daughter MIGHT BE mentally challenged without testing your daughter's IQ first?

Comments 18

Anonymous
  • 21st Sep 2012 03:11pm

It should be up to the child to make the decision

mistymae53
  • 9th Sep 2012 04:53pm

There is no way on God's green earth that anyone will be doing that to my disabled daughter, there is contraception, there are options, a hysterectomy is major surgery, no way, what if something went wrong, I know I couldnt live with myself, and I dont think any other mother could either. Not judging or trying to sound harsh, your obviously at the end of your tether, but don't do this please!

mistymae53
  • 27th Jul 2012 01:27am

I am fairly sure that it is illegal to have your daughter have a hysterectomy due to physical or intellectual disability, my understanding is that young women with disabilities are put on contaceptives. Intellectually disabled people have rights, I think only if a court gives permission can this procedure take place, and then I don't think they would give them a hysterectomy, sterilization I think would possibly be all that is permissable, I'm not an expert but do understand this situation due to my own personal experiences. Please forgive me if I have given you the incorrect information, but I don't think I have, from what I believe anything that is done to your daughter surgically, requires for your daughter to give her consent, especially if she has the ability to decide for herself, and if she doesn't thats when a court makes the decision, no doubt taking into account what her parents thinks is an exceptional reason for this to occur. Hope I have helped, could be wrong as I said! Kind Regards either way!

mistymae53
  • 27th Jul 2012 01:27am

I am fairly sure that it is illegal to have your daughter have a hysterectomy due to physical or intellectual disability, my understanding is that young women with disabilities are put on contaceptives. Intellectually disabled people have rights, I think only if a court gives permission can this procedure take place, and then I don't think they would give them a hysterectomy, sterilization I think would possibly be all that is permissable, I'm not an expert but do understand this situation due to my own personal experiences. Please forgive me if I have given you the incorrect information, but I don't think I have, from what I believe anything that is done to your daughter surgically, requires for your daughter to give her consent, especially if she has the ability to decide for herself, and if she doesn't thats when a court makes the decision, no doubt taking into account what her parents thinks is an exceptional reason for this to occur. Hope I have helped, could be wrong as I said! Kind Regards either way!

nusanan
  • 20th May 2012 06:21am

My daughter is a cerabal palsied hemiplegic and epileptic she is now 50 with 4 children and 2 grandchildren it never crossed my mind to have her sterilised I just tried in every way to allow her to lead a normal life in my opinion anyone who interferes with their rights should be jailed,in saying that if a child is severly mentaly handicaped an cannot look after them selves and are not likely to form a normal relationship then there is the possibily of rape and its consiquenses so some form of protection is needed perhaps the pill its non invasive.

drsketch
  • 21st Apr 2012 07:29am

My youngest sister is quite severally disabled, she can't care for herself, she needs help with everything. she is always lovely and gentle with children but we don't believe she would be able to handle understanding the concept of pregnancy or handle the process so we (collectively as a family) decided that we would start her on the depo shot. it is something that solved our concerns and her potential concerns but is also reversible if it is decided that it's no longer needed.

I know that you can go through the courts to be granted permission for your daughter to have that procedure but it is now a very difficult process as you need to prove that a pregnancy would be detrimental to your daughter.

We decided on the depo shot as we did not believe we should be making permanent decisions for my sister.

Anonymous
  • 17th Jan 2012 07:17am

I dont think it should be allowed

Anonymous
  • 19th Dec 2011 07:33pm

No No No !!! It is not her decision.
Even if the daughter is mentally challenged, she may still be able to look after a child.
In fact many people with "normal " mental abilities shouldn't have children because they don't seem able to look after their children as well as they should.

cha1327
  • 21st Dec 2011 10:05pm

Grandma, I agree with you. Unfortunately, my mother didn't see it that way

cha1327
  • 22nd Nov 2011 05:26pm

Unfortunately, it happened to me. I was only 11 when I had a hysterectomy just, because my mother and the doctors THOUGHT I MIGHT be mentally challenged without any proof! Yes, I'm Cerebral Palsy, but I've a normal IQ. All my life everyone told me I can't achieve anything. I graduate, work and now I'm married although my mother told everyone for years I'll never marry. Yes, I'm angry! I can't never have a child of my own. My husband understand, but I'm crying my eyes out. There's no chance for me ever to adopt a child. Where's the fairness in this?

Mez
  • 9th Feb 2012 04:23pm
Unfortunately, it happened to me. I was only 11 when I had a hysterectomy just, because my mother and the doctors THOUGHT I MIGHT be mentally challenged without any proof! Yes, I'm Cerebral Palsy,...

cha1327 - your pain past, present and future can never be underestimated on so many levels. With 99.99% conviction I am sure that AT THE TIME your mother made what she thought was the best decision for you [possibly without any help from professionals as to the outcome of your future abilities] and now she is suffering [perhaps in silence] for the losses you both are suffering. I believe that she would reverse her decision in a heart-beat-as we are all very knowing in hind-sight. You seem so strong I just know you will find something different to fill the void of not having your own children--trust that you are needed for a 'special' purpose and hopefully that will be very soon. Sincere congratulations on all your achievements! Best wishes and good luck for your future!

Anonymous
  • 17th Jan 2012 07:24am
Unfortunately, it happened to me. I was only 11 when I had a hysterectomy just, because my mother and the doctors THOUGHT I MIGHT be mentally challenged without any proof! Yes, I'm Cerebral Palsy,...

I understand your anger. My wife and I are struggling with conception, and there have been a lot of tears and anger throughout the process. I can only imagine the pain of knowing defiantly that it will never happen for you. Especially when you didn't get to make the choice yourself. I think if parents are concerned they should put their child on the jab instead of making an irreversible decision. I hope she regrets it now.

cha1327
  • 21st Dec 2011 09:37pm
I am so sorry cha - Having worked with parents who did not do this to their (intelectually) disabled children, I really thought those dark days of well meaning ignorance were over. My comments...

Sherri, I understand completely. You didn't know I was talking about myself. It's just I'm struggling when I see people who don't deserve to be parents and they've four to six children. That's salt in my wound and added to my pain.

sherri
  • 30th Nov 2011 10:39am
Unfortunately, it happened to me. I was only 11 when I had a hysterectomy just, because my mother and the doctors THOUGHT I MIGHT be mentally challenged without any proof! Yes, I'm Cerebral Palsy,...

I am so sorry cha - Having worked with parents who did not do this to their (intelectually) disabled children, I really thought those dark days of well meaning ignorance were over. My comments must have rubbed salt in your wound. I am really sorry if my comments have added to your pain.

chookybo
  • 27th Nov 2011 10:30am
Unfortunately, it happened to me. I was only 11 when I had a hysterectomy just, because my mother and the doctors THOUGHT I MIGHT be mentally challenged without any proof! Yes, I'm Cerebral Palsy,...

That is so sad. It's terrible what happened to you. How dare they decide to take that away from you just because you MIGHT be mentally challenged. No. It is not fair. No one has the right to make that decision. I can understand your mother's reasoning as she would have been trying to do what was best, but still do not believe it was right. Your mother probably regrets it now as she will miss out on the grandchildren her daughter could have given her. However, I cannot understand the doctors who made the decision without absolutely proving that you were mentally incapable. There is absolutely no faireness in it at all.

I can understand your anger. You must be a very strong woman. It would have been terrible to be constantly told that you can never achieve anything. That is awfully down-putting and most people would have given up. Good on you for proving everyone wrong.

sherri
  • 22nd Nov 2011 03:43pm

That is a question that no-one on these boards can answer for you. It requires knowledge about the specific information - and none of us have that.

I do know though that such a decision could not be made without the assistance of doctors, psychologists and other specialists within the disability field. Perhaps some of these people would be able to answer your question.

(BTW - I know that hysterectomies used to be performed routinely on people with a disability a few decades ago, but I did not think that this happened any more. IF it is still possible, then, it would only be after much consultation with many specialists)

woodie
  • 21st Nov 2011 02:03pm

I don't believe any Mother should make that decision. How dare she take the right away from he Daughter without even having proof she is Mentally Disabled. Many have gone on to become great parents..

woodie
  • 21st Nov 2011 02:07pm
I don't believe any Mother should make that decision. How dare she take the right away from he Daughter without even having proof she is Mentally Disabled. Many have gone on to become great...

That should be her Daughter...I have seen too many people mistake Physical and Mental Disability. Even those with Cerebal Palsy which is caused by Brain Damage are very Smart and capable people..

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