my son wont sleep
Posted by: jaide09
3rd May 2011 06:38pm
Hi, i have a 16 mth old who still wakes 2-3 times a night. i have tried to let him cry it out but he just doesnt give up. i am a single mum with a 3 year old (perfect sleeper) as well and I want some sleep! Any suggestions on weaning fwould also be appreciated!
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Russel
Yeah, If a child has bronculitis then he/she will have less sleep and light sleep. Every child is different. Parents should find out the the exact reason for not sleeping. Its not easy to settle a baby of 16 mth to a routine. and letting a baby cry whole night might not be a good idea if he/she has bronchulitis or asthma or if he/she is hungry.
Kim-louise
My son did not sleep through the night till he was 4. However, as he got older he woke up less. When he was 4 I had his tonsils and adenoids removed. From that moment on he has slept well. I believe he had sleep apnoea and having them removed helped him breath better. He would wake during the night screaming - I now think he woke as he was frightened at not being able to breath. I did try everything like you did and found he and I slept best when he was in bed with me. I did that when I was in dire need of sleep. So maybe there is a medical reason why he is always waking up.
Anonymous
I personally just want to say first off all this talk of don't put them down with the bottle is crap they learn how to take the bottle on there own and when they want that bit of fix before they go to bed when they get old enough to hold the bottle it is such a pain in the neck to grab him/her out of the cot put them for example in the lounge room make them a bottle walk out with the bottle they have taken off you gotta find them put them back get them to lay down on there back otherwise they just end up drinking air cause they may not have the full concept of tipping the bottle all the way up so the formula comes down and they are more likely to lay down easier in the cot so they can get the bottle in the right spot so there not always sucking down the air somewhere half way in between and getting a tummy ache or bad gas from drinking air and not formula or expressed milk. The bath before bed works wonders and why is everyone that I meet always telling me try not to use a dummy? So long as your not dipping it in honey and if there not chucking a fit they don't nessecarly, need it but mum needs to sleep to function and if it works don't fix it!
Anonymous
Hi. my daugther is two ihad no trouble putting.her as sleep when she was a baby. after the age if 1 she did not want to sleep in her room by herself always wanted mummy or dady with her. so we let her sleep with her dad that was the bigest mistake we ever done.. We stop doing.that for.about.a.week she was crying.non stop she.eevn started to hit.her head on the side of the cot, vomiting everything.. Lucky it only lasted a couple.of.days. i.was abought to give in.. it does work if.you stay calm and stimck with that routine..
ninna
I sympathise with yr situation as I had a screamer who had undiagnosed lactose intolerance & reflux. We did not get a decent night's sleep till we gave in & let him stay in our bed, as hard as it was to get him out of that habit it at least gave us all some sleep until I got divorced & had to do it on my own.
Contact yr local community health centre & see if there is a mothercare unit such as Tresillian, many friends had great success with breaking the pattern & forming a better one. If there is then ask if they have the facilities for you to stay in the overnight stay since you are a sole parent with another young child. They can work with you on the problem & it is most likely he has formed a bad habit of waking for some sort of attention...bottle or just cuddles & reassurance from Mum. Sleep deprivation is a horrible thing to have to suffer & being a sole parent is the hardest job in the world. I have bought my 2 boys up for the past 11 yrs so you have my sympathy & I wish you all the very best with getting some sleep.
prettygirl
hi i have four children and i cut out their afternoon sleep and this helps alot.
even thou you are tired they get tired even quicker than you,
one of my children had reflex which stopped her from sleeping until i took her to the doctors and they helped alot. if you still have trouble with your child then please go and see your doctor
cheebs
I had trouble with both my kids sleeping and i read a book called sleep easy solutions and i found it really helpful with some fantastic tips
Anonymous
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH no bottle when baby is in bed.....This should be the time for hugs..He will get used to sleeping again, you just gota be a bit stronger. Lay him in his bed, give him a hug and a kiss nyte nyte, close the door slightly.....when he cries go in straight away and reassure him you are still here and it is nyte nyte time, keeping on laying him down on his bed, do not let him stand or sit and cry sooth him to lay back down. Each and every 1 to her/his own.
keep trying until you find something that works for both of you.
Amy
Anonymous
i have a son the same age who does the exact same thing..you should have him in a routine before dinner chase him around like you are playing tag for about an hour this will wear him out and he will work up an appetite.. after dinner give him a bath get him ready for bed read him a story or let him watch a lillte t.v cartoon. put him in his cot
then close the door slightly but make sure he can still see some light... if he crys just leave him there for about 20 mins.. he should be wearing himself out with all the crying. after 20 mins go back in and lay him down again tell him you love him and give him a kiss... walk back out close the door repeat the process about 3 times and when you see he is getting tired give him his bottle (if he still has one) lay him down and he should go to sleep do the same thing when he wakes up during the night... except not with a bottle. he should learn the process in a week and you will be back to your beauty sleeping days
Qsita
My son sleeps the complete night since he was 3months old.
It is not just "let him cry" because itis torture for both. You have to use an strategy: After the routine of a warm bath, massage, quiet time, etc you put him in his crib with something that will stay with himm throughout the night NOT THE BOTTLE (eg a teddy). You say good night, turn the lights off and step out, close the door while he's still awake, don't wait until he falls asleep.
If he starts crying you count 3 min and come in. Tell him you're around, he's not alone, soothe him without carrying him in your arms and go out again.... this time if he starts crying wait 5 min, go in and do the same NEVER PICK HIM UP! Then wait for 10min... 15min... 20min before entering again.
If he wakes up during the night this is different. This time let him cry, believe me he won't cry all night and as much as you want to go and pick him up, DON'T! It will only last for a few minutes and he will go back to sleep, this will last only a few days, one week tops. It is worthy!!! You're training him to concile sleep on his own and this will last forever! My son is now 6yo and has never ever given me any problems to go to bed.
I took all the advice from a book called "Duérmete niño" (fall asleep boy) by Dr Estivil, it is the best book in the subject and if you can find it in English, buy it because it's great