Is it ok to be happy
Posted by: Rocky40
3rd Mar 2011 09:57am
My partner and I are blissfully happy and in love, but over the last six weeks we have had four sets of friends brake up. I now find that some of these people are now acting strange around us, like we aren't meant to be happy because they aren't. Both my partner and I have been married before so we know what they are going through and are trying to be supportive but it is hard when they are being short tempered and gloomy all the time when around us it really brings the mood down for everyone. My question to the world is have others found this among their friends, does it get better or have we lost our friends.
Kat
- 20th Nov 2012 05:42pm
Been there Done that!
It is very frustrating to be made feel guilty because of your own happiness, for me it was a constant occurence with my girlfriends who would complain about their partners not doing this or doing that-and expect me to join in when infact Ive been married 20 years to a warm generous selfless man- who shares my life equally we are a real team, , we rarely argue and nothing gets us down. I have absolutley no complaints at all and I would find my self feeling really uncomfortable and fake when they would get on their men hating whinge session. I realised I was avoiding get togethers with them so I decided to just tell them as it is"I must be one of the lucky ones as I dont have any of those problems" but I listened to them and gave a supportive ear if they needed one.
Its the same when I lost a lot of weight I was so exited but hid my happiness from my friends, No one seems generally happy for anyones happiness anymore, I love it when my loved ones are happy i get so exited for them yet I have never received the same support back. Sad really! stand your ground as life is too short to spend your life worrying what other people are thinking or saying. Just be happy Its what you would want for them Isnt it?.
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