Child Support & the non custodial parent.
Posted by: Ralphy
23rd Nov 2010 08:54am
Why is it that when paying child support that the "non custodial parent" has no rights? Our "GROSS" pay is what the % is taken from not the net. So regardless of any mortgages, car payments, loans etc we have or even how much we pay in tax, they take it from the GROSS.... yet they do not take into account if the Ex is re married, their partner earns loads of money, they don't have to account for the child support as to where it is going. My Ex has managed to buy a new car, go overseas on holidays and all that when i struggled to put food on the table for myself. Child support is meant to be one half of what it takes to maintain a child, the "custodial" parent should be made to show receipts for monies spent on the children at tax time to justify the amount of money being paid. Particularly when that person removes the children against a court order and there is nothing that can be done about it unless you take them to court. It is near on impossible to afford to pay for a lawyer to take them to court as that cost thousands which you don't have due to the amount of child support you pay. It is a vicious circle indeed. I know not all "custodial" ex's are like this but there needs to be stringent rules and assistance for non custodial parents when these type of things happen. After all they are quite happy to take the money, they should allow us to see our children. Perhaps the percentage should be asset based? on both non custodial and custodial. Why should the non custodial parent live in squallor, never having the opportunity to afford to own a house when the custodial parent can work, get child support and have a partner who earns lots of money can afford to buy what they want? What of the poor kids who miss out on seeing their other parent through choices made for them by your ex?
Shay-Dee
- 30th Nov 2010 06:41pm
I still have 18 months to go .... And I am going to fight it ...
Last year when I was made redundant from a job I had been at for 2 years, they were able to waive my payments until I was eligible for centrelink payments. If they can do it once, they can do it again :( grrrr
We could not afford to go now, we just decided that if we don't, there will never be a "right time" to do it. So we made this the right time. We have spent 12 months, selling a house, paying out the mortgage, buying a car and new caravan. Making sure the rental is finished and ready to rent as a "new" house, saving what we can. We will have to work again at some point in the next 12 months, but at least, apart from insurances, and the rates, we have no bills :)
Well, I have my maintenace now lol
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