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Society & Culture

Posted by: Ralphy

13th Dec 2011 09:51am

I need to ask this simple question. At least I thought it was a simple question until I spoke to a few friends of mine who made me even more confussed. Why? Why do people that enter into relationships with their "eyes wide open" become blind to their chosen partner? what makes someone detail certain likes and dislikes then change their minds? why do people find it necessary to lie their way into a relationship? why can't people be honest not only with their partner but with themself? Ok maybe not a simple question lol... Some people will read this and say "Wow, what a cynical guy..." or "Someone did a number on him" but this is not true. In reality I am just sick of seeing people treat their "supposed" love one like crap. Let's face it, we meet someone, we are attracted to them, we sit and talk, sometimes for hours on end watching the sun come up as we disclose unto each other our deepest desires and wishes, our likes and dislikes.... who and what we are and yes sometimes even revealing those skeletons in the closet and our past, after all our past is important as it has shaped us into who we are today... at the end of "talk" we are both happy and move forward into a relationship and all of a sudden it all changes... sure it is exciting and new and fresh at the start and yes people do grow and their tastes change but seriously, do they change that much in such a short period of time to make them reneg on everything they had said? or is it justa game for some people? this is not gender specific, I have had conversations with both males and females and they have all been treated in this same way. How do we prepare ourselves for this to happen? how do we give our heart and soul to someone we think is special to us only to have them destroy all that you believe in? Why is it so hard to find that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with? that one person who is not only your lover but is your best friend, who you can't wait to come home and see, who is the first thing on your mind when you wake and the last thing as you fall asleep? really where has the romance gone, where has the commitment to each other gone? have we as a society made it so easy to fall in and out of love with little or no regard for how our "partner" might feel? seriously, I think the only hard part about a relationship breaking up (in the mind of the person doing the breaking) is that they don't want to feel like they are the bad person. So what do they do??? that's easy, they pick apaprt everything they used to find attractive in you and turn it into your fault to appease their own feelings of guilt... oh well who knows, maybe there is only one true soul mate out there for everyone and the rest are just almost or not quite types who give you all the heartache and pain to prepare you for when you do meet the "one"... then again maybe Im just full of crap lol..


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